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Namolls · 21 Sep 2005

Hi everyone

I hope we are all ok?

I am fine - but getting bigger and bigger every day. I am enormous - probably not helped by the fact that I am eating enough for about 5 people on a daily basis!

But, hey I'll worry about losing the weight after I've had the baby!

Everything has now started to swell up as well, so I'm not far off having to permanently take off my rings, as they are almost well and truly stuck on my little piggy fingers at the moment.

I've also had a rethink about the birth - I was dead set on a VBAC, but I had a conversation with my step mum at the weekend and I've changed my mind! She is a retired midwife and was the biggest advocate of natural birth ever - if she'd had her way every woman in the county would have a home birth with no intervention whatsoever. But, she actually said in my case she would recommend a c-section.

She basically said that she could see I was measuring ahead of my dates and I'm definitely bigger than I was with Jack (and he was quite big at 8lb 9oz), so in all likelihood this baby will be even bigger. Jack just didn't descend at all despite me getting to 10cm and pushing for nearly 2 hours. So, she thinks there is a big possibility the same would happen again.

And she made me realise that actually the most important thing is to come out of this with a healthy baby - my aspirations of a natural birth are not the most important thing. And she is absolutely right. I wanted to try for a VBAC to almost prove I could deliver naturally - but if I think about it, the only thing I really want is a healthy baby (I don't care how they arrive!).

Also at my last consultation the consultant told me that I would need to be constantly monitored so couldn't have a water birth and would be basically bed ridden - so in all honesty this wasn't the birth I wanted either.

So, there we are I feel a bit like I'm opting out and taking the easy route, but I am almost 100% certain I will opt for another c-section.

But, as long as I get a healthy baby I don't care.

Anyways I hope evrybody else is ok.

Speak soon.

xxx

kingtut · 13 Oct 2004

Nikki

So glad things are going well and your eating again (is the sickness gone completely). I agree with you on the c section I have swore if i was ever lucky enought to have another child then I would automatically have another c section if I was able to I think because I had such a positive experience with my section despite it being 8 weeks too early but it was so relaxed and calm I would gladly do it again. I think there always will be a little niggle in the bak of your mind about wether you could have had a Vbac but there is with just about everything we do in life . This way you are in control and you know waht will happen and when and once you have your precious baby in your arms nothing else matters.

Take care

Leeann

PS can't believe your almost 25 weeks

emerald · 25 May 2005

hi nikki

i have just had my second elective c-section. i have healed so much easier this time i was amazed and also when consultant was stitching me up i asked how my scar tissue looked and apparently it looks fine and we can try for a third Smile

like you said aslong as they arrive safely thats all that matters

x x x

Loui5e · 21 Oct 2004

Hi Nicki,

My first birth sounds like yours pushing for 5 hours Shocked

with a 7lb15oz baby had a section. Opted for a vbac 2nd time same again pushing for an hour 8lb10oz section. I too wanted to prove i could do it but my pelvis had other ideas.
Section lovely no problems up and about after 8 hours home day 2 back to normal 8days. There is no saying what will happen but whatever way baby comes out enjoy it, if that means a planned section then go for it.

Louise x

Namolls · 21 Sep 2005

Hi everyone

Thanks for all the positive comments about opting for another section - as you all say the most important thing is to get a healthy, happy baby and if that means opting for another section then so be it!

I actually recovered quite quickly from my first emergency section, so hopefully a planned one would be even easier.

I just can't wait to meet this baby now - and I really don't care how they arrive into the world, as long as they arrive safely.

And at least with a planned section we can arrange childcare for Jack in advance.

Thanks again ladies.

xx

Lazyhayes · 28 Jun 2006

hello ladies

gosh 25 wks already Nikki where has that gone, glad your feeling better, gosh havent even thought abiut impemding birth, trying to put it outta of my mind as when I saw consultant other week she reccomended C section which I am just not keen on, I think with my previous surgery they are concerned about my rupturing so c section is at the moment what there thinking of, I howevee have other ideas!!!!
Am sure I will do whatever suits the baby but am concerned how I will recover, with new baby and toddler

Anyway what will be will be, or is it was it is!!!

Jan xx

emerald · 25 May 2005

Hi

can't believe how far along you ladies are now!! All is going well with us and jessica is loving having a little sister. Isabella is much better at sleeping than jessica was and even went 5 hours the other night, (got to admit i was awaking checking she was still breathing).

Jan recovering after the section wasn't as bad as i thought and within 2 weeks i was picking jessica up just carefully and as little as possible. Aslong as your dh has 2 weeks paternity it shouldn't be that bad. However i can completely understand you wanting a natural birth, i would i have loved to have a natural rather than section but it wasn't the safest option for isabella. If i were you i would do lpts of research on the net about the risk of rupture with the ops you have had, that way when you see consultant you are armed with facts so they don't bully you into something you don't want, (i was basically told trying a natural birth would be risking isabella's life)

x x

nicc1 · 12 May 2009

Hi guys, thought i would just check in! Hope you are all ok.!!!Sounds like it.Me i am fine, working hard etc, my nursing training has gone down the pan now as nobody wants me!!!!Oh well maybe it was meant to be??? Will pop in again soon LOL Nic x x x

Namolls · 21 Sep 2005

Oh Nicc - what a shame about the nursing training. I can't believe nobody wants you - this country is always desperate for good nurses. I can't believe you got turned down. Have you thought anymore about cycling again?

Emerald - glad to haer you are recovering well from your section. How old is Isabella now - I've lost track! Great news that she is a good sleeper and LOL at you checking on her when she was asleep!

Leann - great to hear from you. Hope you are ok?

Jan - how's things with you now? I know what you mean about not thinking about the birth too much. I've only just got my head around being pg never mind thinking about actually delivering this baby! Hope all is ok with you?

Everything seems to be going ok with me. My BP is normal and baby is wriggling around a lot. I am measuring a couple of centimetres bigger than expected, but nothing to worry about apparently. I've had top up the anti sickness tablets back up to 6 a day - as I was starting to struggle a bit when I reduced to 4. I'm also still on ranitidine for the heartburn which is unbearable at times.

I'm seeing the consultant at the end of Feb and plan to tell him then that I have opted for another section - I think he'll be quite pleased.

We've got a 3d scan booked for the 20th of Feb - so I am really excited about that. I hope we don't accidentally find out the sex!

Well, I think that's about it from me for the moment.

I hope everybody is ok.

Take care
xx

Lazyhayes · 28 Jun 2006

hello everyone

Well some good news, finally felt some movements on saturday as was getting worried all was not well

Leann hello hows things, hope sam is being good for mummy

Nicc well I always say things happen for a reason so maybe your path to nursing isnt just right, but how frustrating, maybe there is something else round the corner!!!!

Nikki he he you mad me chuckle about the sex, im still deciding wether to find out which is tommorow!!!!

Emerald, I know I would probably bounce back after section its just with my op last feb am paranoid i will be never the same again inside!!!!

Mum took Jake swimming today and he ran off and jumped in the pool!!! he hasnt bene since a baby he hated it as a baby, so I dare not go again, he now appears to be a secret diver!!! Mum said she was hyperventilating at side of pool, thankfully he jumped in shallow bit, he loved it so thats it now me and him swimming every week!!! Bump and all

Jan xx

nicc1 · 12 May 2009

Hi Guys glad you are all well!

Hopefully i will be cycling by the summer, i have made a decision that if all is well with my repeat smear which hopefully will be done at the end of March i will be doing fet medicated by May. I was in two minds of which to do natural or medicated, but as my last period was only 3/4 days long, which for me is weird, i would rather be controlled by the clinic, cos with my track record anything could happen!!!! But we shall see.LOL nicc x x x

Namolls · 21 Sep 2005

Hi everyone

Nicc - great news that you will be cycling again in the not too distant future, and it does sound like a medicated transfer is the best option. I will be keeping absolutely everything crossed for you.

Jan - how are things with you? Did you find out the sex at your scan? I hope all was ok?

Well unfortunately I ended up back in hospital for a night on Sunday. I started being really violently sick on Sunday afternoon and was having some horrible tummy pains. The hospital seemed to think it was something I had eaten and pumped me full of anti-sickness drugs again and hooked me up to a drip. Thankfully after a couple of hours in hospital the sickness subsided - so they kept me in for obs for a night and then let me come home yesterday.

The baby is fine though - it's just me that's still struggling. I'm still on the anti-sickness tablets (6 a day), but they are not as effective as they were and I'm starting to feel more nauseous.

Still only 13 weeks to go now (maybe less if I opt for an elective section).

I can't wait to meet bubba now and I'm really looking forward to not being pregnant anymore (soz, if that offends anyone - but this pregnancy has been really hard work!).

Well I suppose I'd better try and get some work done - DH didn't think I should come back to work so soon after being released from hospital, but tbh I have already had so much time off work with sickness that I feel guilty about taking anymore time off than is really necessary - particularly as I will be starting mat leave in about 10 weeks.

Anyway, I hope everybody is ok?

Take care.

Nikki
xx

nicc1 · 12 May 2009

Hi Nikki sorry you are feeling so rough, to be honest i can't imagine feeling/being sick for so long into pregnancy, it must be awful, i know we all want to get pregnant either for the first time or 2nd but even so there is only so much a girl can take hey!!! So keep your pecker up and count down the weeks til you see your geogeous baby. LOL nicc x x x

Lazyhayes · 28 Jun 2006

hello

only a quick one

Im ok, didnt find out the sex, decided to wait

Nicc1 glad your gonna be cycling again soon I am sure things will be ok from smear

Nikki poor you and the sickness!!!! Can understand why you feel the way you do, when that little bundle is here, it be all worth it!!!! Did you find out the sex I cant remember???

My muscles are aching went swimming last night first time in must be 7 years!!!! Ache were I have never ached!!! all good for baby though

Have gained a stone already!!! Not happy

Jan xx

Namolls · 21 Sep 2005

Great news that everything was ok at the scan Jan. And lol at your acheing muscles after the swimming. I couldn't even think about exercising at the moment - so well done you!

I dread to think how much weight I have put on - I lost about a stone in the first 14 weeks, but I have definitely put on a lot more than that now. I've decided not to worry too much about it though - as eating seems to be the only thing that helps with the nausea at the moment, so I'll worry about my weight after the baby arrives (and I will defo have to worry!).

Nicc - when will you get the results from your second smear? I can't wait to follow your next cycle.

We've got a 3D scan booked for Saturday morning so I'm really looking forward to that - but must remember to tell the sonographer that we don't want to find out the sex!

We've still got loads to do to get the baby's room ready - I was much more prepared when we had Jack. I keep telling myself we've still got 12 weeks left - but I'm sure that will fly by and if we're not careful we'll have aboslutely nothing ready!

Anyway, I'd better go and do some work - boo!

Take care everybody.

xx

Lazyhayes · 28 Jun 2006

Hi Nikki

ooh 3 d san, have been wondering about them myself this time round, is there 4 d ones too? So your not finding out, good on you, nice surprise, IM sure you have everything still, you sound like me not worrying, can see us putting everything together last minute!!!! Must dig out some old Jakes old bits and bobs to wash for early days!!! (neutral of course!)

WEll I poisoned us all last night, I made a lovley chicken casserole but DH was not good last night, it hit me this morning and Jake seems to be ok (he only had a bit as he ate at nursery) its was soo tasty too, baby was kicking away afterwards so I prsesumed baby enjoyed too!!!

Right thst it for me, have bene wondering about Kate as she dissapeared from here, hope your ok hon if your browsing

Jan xx

Namolls · 21 Sep 2005

Oh Jan - what a nightmare about the chicken casserole!

I have a horrible feeling that my sickness is about to return with avengeance sometime soon.

I had another really awful night - where I was violently sick for a couple of hours. It's just so draining, and I was in floods of tears last night.

I don't feel too bad at the moment - but I can't see how it can be something I ate, as nobody else is suffering and after a period of violent vomitting for a couple of hours I start to feel better. And if it was food poisoning I'm sure I would feel worse for longer.

So, I'm off to the GP to ask about different medication today.

We are actually having a 4d scan tomorrow - so we will get to bring home some 3d pictures and a DVD of the baby moving around. I can't wait!

I suppose one good thing that has come out of the revised bout of sickness is that it has convinced me to have an elective section - I threw up throughout the whole of my labour with Jack and that was without hyperemesis, so I really don't want to be labouring and vomitting violently again.

So, there we are - decision made, I will opt for another section!

Must go, but hoe everybody is ok, and loving the new picture Jan!

Take care.
xx

nicc1 · 12 May 2009

Hi Nikki good luck with your scan tomorrow!!! How exciting. my smear hopefully if they let me have it 3 months early should be at the end of March depending on the ole witch of course!! But there is a chance i won't be able to have it repeated until 6 months which will disappoint me no end, but i will have a chat with my gp soon to see if its ok especially as my consultant said any changes will be seen after 3 months, so if they say no i may have to have a private one done?? DS has got a warty thing on his toe, not a verucca so will have to take him, i must make sure i cut his toe nails as that would be pretty embarrasing to take him with long dirty toe nails...boys!!!! LOL nicc x x x

Namolls · 21 Sep 2005

Nicc - I hope you get your smear soon, and opting for a private one sounds like a good idea if needs be.

Lol at your DS's toe nails - Jacks are just the same. He hates having them cut and I'm pretty rubbish at forcing him to have them done, so last time I cut them they were so long!

Hope the warty thing gets sorted!

Take care.

xx

Lazyhayes · 28 Jun 2006

Hi Nicc1 & Nikki

Nicc1 Hope GP is on your side and you get started asap once your ready, then again 6 mths will be here before we know it, cant beleive its March in a week and a bit!!!

Nikki 4 d scan sounds fab, where you having it done, was it very expensive? Could I purseude DH??? Never had with with Jake and wish I had of, this being last pregnancy and all maybe I could treat myself!!!

Ooh saved myself £250 today, changed my house ins and got it for half of new renewal cost!!!!

Ahhhh my friend is coming to view our house Sunday she been after it a while!!! hers not sold yet, but if can sell without agents be great, gotta start looking myself now!!!! have a seen a couple which look nice but who knows

Been out and bought new makeup and a smock style dress for a party tonight, figures if I am pregnat gonna spol myself I work hard!!!!

Right gonna start curling my hair betetr try and look half decent!!!

Jan xx

Namolls · 21 Sep 2005

Hi everyone

I hope we are all ok?

Well our 4D scan was amazing on Saturday - we didn't find out the sex but at one point the sonographer said 'He', although she did then say that she refers to all babies as boys!

So I am now convinced it's a boy - I really don't mind either way though.

The baby looked perfect - I'll try and get some piccies up at some point. It is measuring at least 30 weeks gestation though and the sonographer was convinced I had got my dates wrong. Err, no, not possible as this was IVF!

She estimated that the baby weighs approx 3lbs - so would weigh about 8.9lbs at full term. So, roughly the same as Jack.

Jan - the scan cost £200, and was with a company called Baby Bond who have locations all over the UK. There were some cheaper options, I think if we had opted for no DVD it would have been about £169.

We thoroughly enjoyed it and if you can afford it, it is definitely worth considering.

Well, the GP has changed my anti-sickness medication and thankfully this seems to be working at the moment. I still feel nauseous most of the time, but at least I'm not being sick anymore.

Soz, for the me post - but I've got to run as I have a meeting to go to.

Hope everybody is ok.

Take care
xx

Lazyhayes · 28 Jun 2006

Hello Nikki

wow scan sounds fab, they do refer to0 babies as he0's but it will make you wonder now!!!!

Have heard about that co, may have to sweet talk my DH see what he thinks, last time I left it to late and was thinking I shouldnt be peeuping in on nature but this time I would love to see !!!!

Right a very quick one as seem to have lost my child, he is somewhere with granny as bene at work so need to track em donw!!!

J xx

nicc1 · 12 May 2009

Hi Nikki and everyone else!! Glad scan went well. Me having a horrendous period, relly bad??? My last one was really light and only 3.5 days so not sure whats going on??? This is period number 3 after ectopic, so am going to see gp on monday to see if all is well, and ask about having my smear early. I know i don't have any issues ie fibroids only past history of heavy periods, so maybe i just have to wait for things to settle a bit first?? but its always the way is'nt it just when i want to get the ball rolling again. Anyway we shall see how it all goes. LOL nicc x x x

Lazyhayes · 28 Jun 2006

Hi Nicc1

Sorry to hear about the heavy P there not nice, think its just you body settling back down, but as you sya typical when you wann get started again!!!!

Anyweay just a quick one

Jan xx

cathysean · 23 Sep 2009

hi every1 am cathy its my first ivf ment to test on 2nd ov march but started bleeding yesterday morning so it looks like am goin to be trying again

how are all of you xx