CARE Fertility Bulletin Board

nicster · 19 Aug 2010

Stella,

I just cant believe how insensitive your MIL has been ! doesnt she realise how much you have been through and her comments are the last thing you need.

Thats really good news about the clinic in the czech republic, do you feel better that you have got something to focus on ? hows things with you and your DP ?

AFM. Well ive had my protocol through so just waiting for my AF now, then thats my second period so I can start on the next one hopefully the beginning of April !

Love to you all.

Nicster x

Mrs Boz · 06 Jun 2010

Hi All

Apologies for not posting for a while, just been trying to get on with my life and it's pretty chaotic at the minute (work) so keeps me distracted and I'm so pleased to be back and get some normality into my life, if only for a little while.

Nicster - pleased to hear that things are becoming more calmer for you and that you will be having another go and for you Stella also - fingers crossed.

AFM - went for my review earlier this week and as I thought the consultant told me that the two embryos I had put back were of the highest quality and it was just down to luck that they didn't implant. It may be that the chromosones were not how they should of been, but we'll never know. We were always certain that we would be having another go and this is what we have signed up for so my well be cycle buddies again Nicster, although I think mine will be end of April rather than the beginning. Everything will be the same for my next cycle where the medication is concerned and I probably wouldn't do a great deal different regards my diet, as for the 2WW I don't think I will spend as much time at home. If I feel OK I will go back to work.

Nicster / Stella / Pinkrose - you heard anything from JoJo1? Her scan was due last Monday but I notice she's not posted - I really hope she's OK but with not posting it makes you wonder.

Again, sorry for not posting before now.

Take care all.

Mrs Boz
xx

H&K · 02 Jan 2011

Nicster - I i'm sooooooooooooooooooo pleased you can have one more shot, I really hope you get your dream! lol:) xxxx

Stella - I cant believe your mil's comments to you, to say - "starve yourself" is so wrong, it made it draw breath when i read it! And to say your next lot of treatment is a "waste of money" well!!!!! Some people just dont know when to keep their mouth shut do they! Doesnt she understand what you have been going through ! Oh I could slap her for you chick! DONT listen to anything she says its not worth stressing yourself out over, you have enough on your plate! Hope you are keeping well apart from that. xxxx

Mrs Boz - nice to hear from you, Good Luck for your next cycle, it will soon come round xxx

AFM - I have had another extremely busy week, so just flaking out by the time I get home, so dont get chance to come on the laptop. Went to a Zumber class this week I really enjoyed it, it didnt feel like I was exercising, as it was so much fun, but definitly felt it the next day. Still generally feeling positive, but have down moments still, especially after i've watched one born every minute! Why do I torture myself watching it? I just cant help myself watching baby programmes! Silly I know! hay ho life goes on, eh!

Hope everyone else is doing ok

Helen xxx

nicster · 19 Aug 2010

Hi Mrs Boz,

Good to hear from you, glad your review went ok, you seem to have been told similar to me that is was probably down to the chromosones and therefore luck, so hears to better luck next time !!! hope we get to cycle together next time, are you going to start your tablets 18 days after your next AF ?

I was getting a bit worried about jojo to, I had a look on the other threads to see if she had posted to say how she had gone on with the scan but nothing, hope she is ok.

Nicster xx

JoJo1 · 10 Sep 2010

Hi All

Thanks so much for all your thoughts, I've had a horrendous week, I've posted on our old thread and be aware, it's a long one!!

Lots better today and will be in touch with you all again soon,

Love to all xxx

Mrs Boz · 06 Jun 2010

Hi Nicster

Pleased to hear that JoJo1 is OK (under the circumstances) - what a trauma she's been to, but to think that her two embies have survived is excellent news.

I will be on the conventional SP so will miss tablets and start with injections on day 2 of my April period which I think should be round about mid April. Due on tomorrow but no signs yet!!! It better be on time - it was last month Sad

Hope we will cycle together as well - when do you think yours will be?

Helen - laughed at your post as I sat and cried watching one born every minute !!!! Why do we do it?!?!?!? Glad to hear that you're keeping positive on the whole - life does go on, whether you want it to stop for a while and feel sorry for yourself - it certainly doesn't. Take Care of yourself.

Love to all.

Mrs Boz
xx

nicster · 19 Aug 2010

Hi mrs boz, think we might end up doing it at the same time ish, my af is due Tuesday, I have to wait till day 18 after that and take norethsterone for between 10 - 13 days then next af comes 3 days after that and then the day after I start stimulating which took me ten days last time. What do you think ? Do you reckon we will be in sync ?

Nicster x

DawnA · 24 Jan 2011

Sorry to be MIA for so long. Been trying really hard to get on with things. Serve me right, I wanted a distraction so Ofsted are providing it on Tues and Wed! Have had absolutely no weekend and am completely knackered but have been so nervous about the inspection that I've not had a chance to worry about my review appointment tomorrow! Wow what a week!

Hope everyone is OK, I know that many of you have been through the mill what with work problems, mothers in law and whatnot, not to mention the whole IVF rollercoaster!

Wishing you all as good a week as possible.

Lisa cat · 10 Mar 2011

Hello everyone, hope it's ok if I join you? I have the right credentials, I'm fresh out of a failed round of ivf Very Happy

. That was our third attempt, the first with immune treatment at Care Nottingham. As if ivf failure isn't bad enough, the period pains that follow are sooo horrendous! I've been rolling around on the sofa making a meal of it.

We have a couple of frosties in another clinic down in Surrey, I was excited when I found out this week that we can transfer them to Care to be used with the immune treatment. Me and DH have been laughing because we need to transport them ourselves in the car (either that or trust a courier!). DH is worried about them defrosting in a traffic jam!

I hope we all get lucky next time, and here's to supporting each other through the process Wink

nicster · 19 Aug 2010

Hi ladies,

Nice to hear from you again Dawn, might god what a week ur going to have, been through ofsted inspectio s myself so I can sympathise, the stress of getting all those session plans and sow perfect and the worry of being observed is enough to tip anyone over the edge ! The only consolation is it's only two days, and just think how much more relaxing next weekend will be x good luck with the review Hun, let us know how you get on x

Welcome to the thread Lisa, so sorry to hear about your bfn, you must have been devastated, you really made me laugh about the thought of your embies defrosting in a traffic jam ! When r u thinking of cycling again ?

Love to you all

Nicster xx

Stella Star · 24 May 2010

Hi ladies,

JOJO1 - I am so glad you are ok (well - you know what I mean) ! And again, you are proof that miracles do happen. Smile

Take it easy lady, look after yourself and let everyone to spoil you and your littleones xxxx

Helen - How funny - I started zumba classed 2 weeks ago! I am determined to get into better shape - MY WAY! Not my MIL way. Not sure if the penny dropped, but I am avoiding my MIL at the mo. Need brake from her!
And to be honest - I am avoiding 'one born every minute' as can't bare watching it. Just trying to get on with it and not to be obsessed with what's gonna happen. Until we plan treatment, going to try take it out of my mind. Smile

Mrs Boz & Nicster, Not long now! Can't believe how fast is time going. Make sure you don't abandone this thread completely when you get your BFPs Smile

Dawn & Nicster - sorry for your 'ofstead' headaches - hope you are over it now. Smile

Lisa - welcome to the thread. x sorry about your BFN! you are at the right place now untill your FET - you made me laugh as well - just a thought! xxxx

AFM - nothing exciting is happening, went to see my GP - having some tests done on NHS, so will see how far we go. I started exercising and healthy diet, will sure have reason to boast about my weight loss..... Positive thinking.. Rolling Eyes

Hope you all have a good start of the week.

LOL s

nicster · 19 Aug 2010

Hi Stella

Lovely to hear from you, glad you are finding things to focus on like your new classes, sounds like fun if nothing else. I think I would be avoiding your MIL if I was you ! Try to keep positive hun, I know its so hard and I can feel the sadness in your posts, I know you are probably just putting a brave face on it. Your time will come, I promise, you deserve it.

Take care and lots of love xx

Nicster x

P.s Fingers crossed for the BFP and I promise you wont get rid of me that easily, I will keep posting whatever happens.

Stella Star · 24 May 2010

Hi Nicster,

Feels like you know me by now. Too well. !!! Yes, you are right - all I want to do is tu cuddle up in bed all day and not go out. Have to drag myself to work, or even to zumba classes. But then when I go, I feel better. Think it is just in general that lot of people are feeling down, with everything that's happening inside, but also outside - I mean in the world, not just at home.
And : oayes - I do keep myself to myself when it comes to MIL - Used to do a lot together on saturdays - can't be bothered now.

I will be really keeping my fingers and toes crossed for you next go. Miracles do happen Smile

LOL and hugs xxx

nicster · 19 Aug 2010

Stella,

It is just so difficult isnt it, no matter how hard you try or what you fill your time with or how much you convince yourself you can cope with it it just doesnt go away and everytime you go out of the door or turn on the television or open a newspaper or magazine, there pregnant women and babies everywhere. Fertility is just so cruel and unkind, we all deserve our longed for babies.

Nothing I can say will make it any better, the only advice I can give you is to hold on to your dream and try everything in your power to make it happen and just believe that one day it will be your turn.

Sending you lots of love

Nicster xx

Lisa cat · 10 Mar 2011

Hello everyone, hope you are having a good week so far. Got my review date with Dr George which is 9th May, I think it's a long time for a post treatment review but then again we can't cycle again before May so we might as well wait.

I had to endure the most ridiculous conversation in the office yesterday, it was quite funny really. A 22 year old declaring that she better have kids by the time she's 30 otherwise it will be too late... and the 'I don't want to end up old with no kids'... and the 'everything stops working properly by the time you get to 30'... I got up and went to the kitchen at that point! Perhaps I thought like that when I was 22, I can't remember Razz

Just goes to show how people take for granted being able to have children and it is so annoying that most women get to choose when they want their family... what a luxury that now seems!

Anyway something else amusing happened recently. My sister, who got pregnant whilst on the pill, has offered to lend me her womb! This made me laugh because we never talk about the fact I'm repoductively challenged and completely out of the blue she and her husband have discussed things and decided to offer surrogacy. I was so surprised I didn't know what to say! I explained that my own womb is fully functional and that our problems seem to be my over keen immune system. God just the thought of my sister or anyone else I know being a surrogate sounds so complicated, has anyone else explored this option? I'd really rather keep trying myself but it was nice of her to offer!

Anyway enough rambling, I hope everyone's next treatment plans are coming along nicely... here's to looking forward x

jomosh · 03 Feb 2011

Hi All
Just a quickie, I managed to keep my job, got a first written warning which I can live with although I dont agree with however I cannot stand to talk to anyone at work now. I am just sitting in my little corner and working my days down till I can cycle again.
Me and the DH have penciled in June so we are more financially stable but if I can't wait that long we can start after my next AF beginning of April.
Hope everyone hanging in there.
Love Jo

nicster · 19 Aug 2010

Oh Lisa the niavity (not sure if thats how you spell it !) of youth, If your past it at thirty then theres no hope for me ! your right it must be so lovely to take your fertility so for granted and be able to pick and choose when to try and know that theres a bloody good chance you will get pregnant !! Oh well our turn will come X Lovely offer from your sister, I agree with you though, you want to expore every avenue of doing it yourself first.

Jo, thats good news about your job, its horrible when your not happy at work though. Go on girl, take the plunge and cycle in April XX

Love to you all.

Nicster x

H&K · 02 Jan 2011

Hi everyone hope you are all well,

Dawn - Hope the ofsted inspection went ok? You can now breath a sigh of relief, I know all about ofsted inspections we are due for one soon ahhhhh! How did your review go? x

Lisa Cat - Welcome to this thread, my review with george is the 10th may so in the same boat as you for the long wait, when have you got to transport your frosties? That did make me laugh! xxx

Jo - Glad you got the Job situation sorted xxx

Well what a lovely day it has been, been in the garden all day, weeding and tidying up now the winter months are hopefully behind us! I feel worn out now, so winding down and thought i'd have a quick pop on here! Feel ok in general and not much to report, just getting on with day to day life! Work is really stressful at the moment as I work in a busy nursery and feel alot of pressure being put on me! I try and de-stress when I come home, but I said to one of my work mates, its no wonder I cant get pregnant with feeling stressed all the time at work! I try to not let things get to me, but some times I just cant help it! I'm dreading it after easter too as we get even more children coming! OMG! There just always seemed so much to do and not enough hours in the day! I think the government should re-think the ratio of 3 year olds to adults its just ridiculous. Anyway thats enough of work talk haha, I'll be getting myself worked up again!

Time for the chocolate I think Wink

Sending all my love to everyone

Helen xxx

nicster · 19 Aug 2010

Hi Helen,

Lovely to hear from you, glad your not feeling too
bad apart from the stress at work, I must admit I cant think of many jobs as stressfull as working with all those little ones, as gorgeous as they might be im sure theres plenty of tears and tantrums !
Bet it feels like ages till your review, Its worth it to see George though, are you going to start again straight away after your review ?

Bet the chocolate was lovvely, Im off it for lent. Mind you Im not exactly being good myself tonight, DP has just gone to collect an Indian takeaway, so much for my diet and my healthy eating !! oh well weve got to have the odd pleasure in life.

Hope everyone else is ok, love to you all xx

Nicster

H&K · 02 Jan 2011

Hi Nicster

We are going to look into having our immue tests done, so I think they take up to 6 weeks, after our review, but as soon as we get the results back then we will be having another cycle so it probably wont be till august/sept time! To be honest we need the saving up time! I dont like to be in dept!
Hope you enjoyed your take away, you have to treat yourself once in awhile. It wont be too long till you start again! I will be keeping an eye on your journey and I really hope this time you get your dream. xxxxx

Helen x

nicster · 19 Aug 2010

Hi Helen,

The takeaway was lovely thanks, yes I will be starting again very soon, start the tablets on the 31st March, Im really nervous, just so scared of going through that emotional instability and devastation when it doesnt work, I think we all underestimate just how bad it is and how much it affects us. Sometimes I think I must be mad to put myself through this again, but I just feel I have to give it one more shot, then I can have closure one way or the other. Its strange because so much of your life is on hold waiting to see if you will be pregnant or not, cant decorate the spare room just in case, no point booking a holiday just in case ! you constantly feel in limbo dont you. I honestly dont feel very hopeful, think Ive had my luck already and time definately isnt on my side, but hey you never know, we'll wait and see.

Think its good that you are going to have the tests, there seems to be loads of really positive stories on here about ladies who have had failed cycles then had immune issues identified and then its worked for them, so fingers crossed for you Hun.

Take care and love to you all.

Nicster x

DawnA · 24 Jan 2011

Hi to all, hope everyone is well.

Helen, thanks for your good wishes. Ofsted are gone and we passed. Hard work but they're gone now and it means I can go ahead with the next round without worry about them arriving half way thru. Review appointment was a bit odd. Consultant was really positive, apparently everything went perfectly except for the getting pregnant bit. We can't quite get as excited as him about that! Anyway, we'll be going ahead with NHS funded FET next cycle. Not worked out the dates yet and haven't quite got my head round the FET protocol.
I know just what you mean about work stress. Particularly after this week (someone's really been out to get me- after ofsted had gone our bus crashed on the way to swimming with 30 children on board. No one was hurt but fun all the same! We sang whilst waiting for the drivers to exchange details, had to be seen to be believed!) You just have to try not to take the stress home with you, which I know is easier said than done.

Jo - really please to hear about your job. I was a bit worried when you didn't post for a while.

Nicster - I know what you mean about putting your life on hold. Our spare room hasn't been decorated at all since we moved in. I feel that whatever I do to it would be bad luck. Nonsense I know but can't help it.

Wishing everyone a good week,
Dawn.

H&K · 02 Jan 2011

Hi Nicster, I know you will worry that your treatment may not work again, but try really hard to be positive, ITS GOING TO WORK Very Happy

Try to keep those horrible negative vibes out of your mind, keep the faith. xxx

Talking about holidays I had booked one for first week in Easter, one of those hols with the sun tokens that you collect, Paid online when we booked it. Afew weeks later we had conformation that they recieved the payment but then were asking for an extra payment for the power charge for the caravan, linen and some sort of entertainment passes?! Anyway we recieved this letter during the end of my last IVF treatment and failed result so it was the last thing on my mind to ring up and pay for these "extra's".
So on monday I finally thought I'd better ring to pay for the power charge, as we did'nt want the linen or entertainment passes anyway!

So I rang them and they informed me that they had CANCELLED our holiday as we had'nt paid the "outstanding Balance". I could not believe my ears, They had not tried to contact us in any way to let us know that they had done this, The letter doesnt say if you dont pay straight away you will lose your Holiday! And to top it off they told me they dont do refunds! What idiots!
What would have happened if we thought we could just have paid it when we got there? I just think its disgraceful that Nobody let us know that this had happened, or tried to ring us to ask us for the balance, as we would have paid straight away if we would have known! so we basically lost our holiday over not paying Â£27.80!!!!! Can you believe it!!!

It was the only thing keeping me going at work, something to focus on and look forward to! I feel like nothing is going right in my life at the moment and this news sent me over the edge on monday night! I couldnt stop crying, I totally took it out on DH, SHOUTING AND SCREAMING all my frustrations at him, I know it wasnt his fault but I just saw red and couldnt stop my tonge! I could not calm down at all and even through to the next evening I was off with everyone who came into contact with me!

This was just the last thing I needed to happen to me at the moment, but I suppose these things are sent to try us or should I say tip us over the edge! (I certainly was hanging all the way over that night haha!!!!) Anyway they said we can transfer the money to a new holiday but not until the next lot of sun holidays come up. so that's summer or october! I am still fuming to say the least about it as you can tell! so we have decided to just go somewhere for afew days instead at easter as I feel that I really need a break at the moment!

Sorry to go on girls its just been a really bad week for me! And I think I've needed to vent!!

Dawn well done on passing Ofsted, Good to get that weight off your shoulders, omg cant believe your bus crashed what a nightmare, Thats the sort of thing that would happen to me! Think I have bad luck following me round at the moment! Glad no one was hurt! What a nightmare though!!!

Hope everyone else has had a better week than me Haha xxxx

Helen xxx

H&K · 02 Jan 2011

OMG This week has not any better for me, its going from bad to worse!

At the weekend my DH was told by his brother that he and his fiance are expecting a baby so DH broke the news to me on sunday morning! I reacted very badly to this news and couldnt seem to take control of my emotions.
I was crying for the whole day and felt so angry as they werent even trying for a baby and "just got caught"!!!! I felt totally devastated by this news and feeling like surely it should be my turn to get pregnant in the family! I CANT believe how angry I feel and bitter towards them, but that is so wrong isnt it! besides its not there fault I cant have a baby?! It sparked a migraine off on monday morning so I didnt go to work.

On tuesday morning I couldnt believe it when my mum told me my s-i-l had had to be induced which was a month early because she was suffering from pre-clampsia, so tuesday she had a baby girl which was good news but this made me feel 10 times worse when I had already felt down about the other pregnancy news, I was preparing for this upcoming birth, but being early and happening just after finding out about the other pregnancy I just cant seem to cope with all this and didnt have time to get my head around it. I dont feel myself at all, I feel so down and dont know if maybe im becoming depressed, not sure i've never suffered from this before?!

To top everything off today I've found out that my sil and bruv have chosen a middle name which I have always wanted!!!
So I just feel thats the salt in the wounds "YOU CANT HAVE A BABY AND YOU CANT HAVE THE NAME YOU'VE ALWAYS WANTED!!!!!!! I came home being a cow to DH saying "oh well I suppose the name might as well be used because we're never going to have a baby are we!
I know im being a bitch but I just cant help taking my anger out on him. Maybe he's better off without me? I dont know, I just dont seem to be any use to anyone!

My emotions, anger, frusteration and jealousy just seem to be consuming me at the moment I just dont know where to turn, other than to you guys! You know what im going through and no-one else seems to understand not even my own mother, who said "it doesnt matter about the name, you can still have it"! yeah right! And even DH, think he thinks i'm totally going off on one! I dont know maybe I am?

In the back of my mind I know my other brother and wife are also trying for a baby and so keep thinking they'll be the next one's to announce that they are having a baby too, I seemed to have coped with the announcements of friends babies but I just cant seem to cope with the family announcements! Its too close iynwim! I feel like I am struggling more at the moment than when we found out that our IVF have failed again?! Whats that about?!

Sorry girls my head is all over the place, im rambling hope any of this makes sense?!

Helen xxx

H&K · 02 Jan 2011

Sorry for the meltdown xxx