CARE Fertility Bulletin Board

Betty11 · 06 Feb 2011

Hi.
Not really sure where to post this...
A new year & a new start.... We are starting to think about trying again after our heartbreak in June.
We have two blastocysts & all the chromosome tests came back clear. I do feel ready to start thinking about having another try but I'm scared, so very scared. Is that normal? I don't want the timing to be the same as with our pregnancy with Louisa so we thinking of starting in few months.

I do wish George was still at Nottingham, has anyone moved to Zita with George?

We think of Louisa every single day & Christmas was hard thinking what should have been. Louisa will always be our beautiful baby girl ...

Any advice from ladies who have had a similar loss & then a successful pregnancy would be gratefully received.

Many thanks
Betty x

Konley · 21 May 2011

Hello Betty

Sorry just does'nt seem to cut it, but I can't think of any other way to express my sadness for you and your DH.
Louisa is such a lovely name, and I am sure she was lovely too.
Your scared feelings are only to be expected, and it must be so difficult for you both to contemplate starting again.
I am one of the less experienced ladies, when it comes to ivf, so unfortunately I am unable to give you a personal success story, but I have read plenty here on this BB (with similar(ish) stories to yourself). I hope one of these ladies pops along soon to give you some wise words (although I am not sure any of them frequent this part of the BB).
I will be cycling again soon, but if we do not cross paths I just wanted to wish you so, so much luck with your future treatment xx

peachy · 26 Oct 2010

Hi Betty

As you can see from my signature I have had a similar heartache. It so so hard isnt it.

I am hoping to do a FET march/april time. For me it will be the same time as with my boys but that is a comfort to me.

I was also with George. If this FET doesnt work then I may move. I have already booked an appointment at zita west just in case as they are booking three months ahead. On the other hand. I dont think he would do anything different to our previous protocols as they were succesful. So giving it a go at CARE first.

Really need this to work to help get over the loss. I am sure you are the same.

xx

L_ouise · 08 Jun 2011

My heart breaks for you ladies that got so close Sad

I think it's normal to be scared for anyone in our situation when even a healthy embryo is so very precious to us.

Hopefully it will be a better outcome for you next time xx

Noggin · 11 Sep 2009

Betty sorry to read such a sad post.
If you have a look at the sanctuary and read the thread "tragic loss" By Rosemummy she seems to have gone through a similar experience to yourself with a very happy ending...
Love Noggin x

sharon35 · 22 Apr 2009

Betty,

we came to care 3yrs ago and were so lucky that our 1st go worked with no issues, so we thought till 18wks when we had our scan, our DD had a part of her heart under developed a condition call hypoplastic right heart, specificly tricuspid artesia with AVSD's... far too complicated to go into detail basicly there was a valve missing and the part the valve was from did not develop.... we were given a good outlook for maybe 15yrs, well long story short things went very wrong during birth and our daughter died 2 days later in the icu in the heart unit.... it was the hardest thing ive ever had to do was to get up every day a mummy with no child.... still kills me inside today....

7mths later we went back to care ready to start again having some frozen we were advised to use those first, well i wasnt hopeful and even more terrified... after transfer of our not doing much scrapped i just as a grade 3, 2 embys were put back and well he is asleep in his room aged 10mths....

i would like to go again in oct this year, hubby is not so keen but im working on him....

there are lots of mummys on here have gone through terrible times, many many now have very happy endings but as you do we all just wish for what if .....

so sorry if ive upset you by sharing part of my story, mine is also in the sanctuary

i wish you very well with your next step

x x x

Emzywhemzy · 21 Nov 2012

Hi ladies, can I join your thread? My husband and I have decided to have a second go at IVF with ICSI in March/ April and I'm really apprehensive. We had IVF with ICSI in November, seven eggs were retrieved, four fertilised and two were grade two and everything looked fine until I started bleeding twelve days later. No reason given why it failed, which is even more distressing. I am scared to try again. We have the money which I'm really greatful for but this is our last try. I am so scared it will fail and this is making me not want to try.I am 38 in June and my husband is 43 in June. We have tried for three years to conceive and our medical problem is I have a blocked Fallopian tube. We are also looking into adoption as we are not concerned if the child is not genetically ours as the child would be ours. Very confusing times.