 |
| Birdie |
|
| Joined: 23 Jan 2012 |
| Posts: 61 |
|
 Posted: Fri Jan 27, 2012 8:47 pm |
|
|
|
|
|
| Has anyone else gone without their partners? Is it really horrid?! Really want him there both for practical & emotional reasons but might not be possible. |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Posted: Fri Jan 27, 2012 9:16 pm |
|
|
|
|
|
I did Birdie, it absolutely wasn't what either of us would have chosen but last minute changes of work commitment meant that my DH just couldn't be there.
The staff at the clinic were lovely and really looked after me (I'm at Northampton). I took a good book with me to read whilst I was waiting to go through and resting afterward, and the nurses kept checking in to see that I was ok.
For ET itself, I think they knew I was a bit sad that DH wasn't there, so they kept my spirits up and chatted to me all the way through, keeping me involved.
In the end, the only bit where I felt a bit weird was driving home. I know it's daft, but I always feel a bit fragile afterwards, so felt a bit weird getting in the car and driving.
If you can, I'd ask for a transfer time which means that you've not too long to wait until your other half gets home once you get home.
As another thought, have you a good friend you could take? Even if they don't come in for ET itself, they could keep you company before and afterward.
Hope that helps, and very best of luck.
Amanda x |
|
_________________
 |
|
|
|
|
|
| Birdie |
|
| Joined: 23 Jan 2012 |
| Posts: 61 |
|
Posted: Fri Jan 27, 2012 9:42 pm |
|
|
|
|
|
Thanks AuntyMand. DH doesn't want to tell anyone anything at this stage, so can't take anyone else.
Wondered about driving but am not a very good driver and can get stressed out driving at the best of times, so not going to chance it. But it's more that he won't be there to watch on screen and hold my hand. I know if we were able to do things the traditional way he'd hardly be watching on screen (!), so am not really sure why I'm so bothered. I've been to other appointments by myself. DH doesn't really seem to get it, but not much he can do about it anyway.
Timing is a good tip although not sure how much say we get in the matter. Isn't it a case of, when they're ready they're ready?
I agree that Nhants staff are lovely! Such a contrast to my experiences of NHS staff (some of whom weren't just cold but callous and frankly, verging on nasty). I'm a strong believer in the NHS but when it comes to fertility issues - and generally how to treat people - a lot of their staff could learn a lot from CARE.
Good luck to you too
B.x |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
| LottieH |
|
| Joined: 23 Mar 2009 |
| Posts: 634 |
|
Posted: Sun Jan 29, 2012 10:52 am |
|
|
|
|
|
Hey Birdie,
I went for ET on my own this time due to DH's work commitments and found it to be a lot more relaxing than when I've been with DH! Not that he'd like to hear me say that 
I am a confident driver though and took my favourite relaxing/sing a long CD's for the trip (over 1 1/2hrs each way) and found myself in a very chilled little bubble all day. And all the Care staff were lovely when they found out he couldn't be there.
Best of luck with it,
Lx |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
| Birdie |
|
| Joined: 23 Jan 2012 |
| Posts: 61 |
|
Posted: Tue Jan 31, 2012 8:14 am |
|
|
|
|
|
Thanks LottieH. I feel a lot happier now about the idea of going by myself. Still wish DH would be there to see but the important thing is that we get to that stage.
Bx. |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
| |
