CARE Fertility Bulletin Board

Kitkat1 · 13 Jul 2011

Oh Footsteps, how exciting ! Guess you're on a plane or there already as I type this ! Will be thinking of you and keeping everything crossed for you xx

DH has felt a couple of kicks now, he's well chuffed Very Happy

We did ask at the 20 week scan if baby was a boy or a girl, was in a difficult position so not conclusive, but probably a girl. With 2 more scans we should get to know for certain. We don't mind either, only thing is we have a definite boys name, but can't decide on a girls name. Our surname begins with a vowel, and all the names we like end in a vowel, and said together just don't sound right. Don't want to burden the little one with a name that can't be understood properly Smile

I'm actually feeling great, just get tired quicker than normal. Got 3 weeks off over Easter and hoping to get away for a week to our place in Spain, and then finish work middle of May, ready for new arrival end of June. Can't believe how quickly it's come round..... 23weeks 2 days, so less than 17 weeks to go.... eeeek !!

xxx

Footsteps2 · 22 Sep 2011

Ha ha not on plane yet just sat in departures at Manchester airport Smile

we don't land till about 8.45 as they are 1 hr ahead. So it we be a stressful few days for us until we hear from the embryologist on Tuesday telling us how many eggs have fertilized. We just want to get to transfer on weds/thurs and then we can breathe a sigh of relief for a little while before we go crazy in the 2ww!
Great to hear that your DH has managed to feel the babba kicking they must feel so left out when it comes to only being there at the right time to feel little kicks etc!
Only a few wks till you off for a nice long easter break in the sunshine, then count down till mid may how exciting!

Footsteps2 · 22 Sep 2011

Still waiting to board lol! And not even at Manchester airport? Don't know where that came from? We are in Liverpool airport! Brain gone to mush!

Footsteps2 · 22 Sep 2011

Well, we got the call..... to say.... we have 3 embies !!!!! sooo happy!!! Laughing

Transfer tomorrow morning Smile

Started the lovely pessaries last night... hmmm interesting Laughing

but I am sure I will get use to them! All in a good cause Smile

Off to enjoy that spanish sunshine for the remainder of the day!

Speak soon x

Kitkat1 · 13 Jul 2011

Oh Footsteps that is fabulous news !!! Very Happy

How many are you having transferred ?

Enjoy that sunshine Cool

xxx

Footsteps2 · 22 Sep 2011

Thanks Kitkat,

we are both so happy to get to ET this time... We both wanted to be really positive that it was going to happen, but we both remained cautious until we got the news, and what good news it was in the end Smile

Early start tomorrow, as ET is at 9.30 tomorrow, but then can chill out in the hotel for the rest of the day Smile

as today we have walked our legs off Laughing

we walked up to Camp Nou football stadium and did the tour etc, DH was in his element! Sat in the sunshine .. making the most of it! We are looking at having 2 transferred Smile

Footsteps x

vip · 16 May 2007

Footsteps, well done on your 3 embies and good luck tomorrow Very Happy

xx

Footsteps2 · 22 Sep 2011

Well I can officially say that I am now PUPO!! We now have 2 embies on board!!

Kitkat1 · 13 Jul 2011

That is FABULOUS news !!! I am so excited for you. So feet up now Footsteps Very Happy

xx

vip · 16 May 2007

Oh how exciting, wonderful news Footsteps. Hopefully you'll have a sonderful bfp very soon xx

Footsteps2 · 22 Sep 2011

Well finally back home Smile

We have enjoyed the last few days in Barcelona just chilling, a bit of sightseeing, oh and of course enjoying the sunshine! Poor DH has a sunburnt head oops! Smile

Kitkat - DH looking after me very well Smile

and it would be rude not to let him Laughing

Feet up for the rest of the 2ww Smile

Pessarys are starting to take their toll a bit with lots of cramping etc... but no pain no gain!

Vip - Thanks and fingers crossed, and everything else that we can cross!! Laughing

Footsteps2 · 22 Sep 2011

Well 4 days to go to OTD!! Eek!! I haven't gone insane yet during this 2ww but there is still time Laughing

I have booked my hcg blood test at care for Thurs morn at 10am. I really am too chicken to do a hpt before then, as I don't want to be disappointed if it hasn't worked! Well not at least until OTD that is Laughing

Not really had any more twingey symptoms since Friday 9dpt apart from I still have mahoosive sore boobs! Laughing

but I know the pessaries can play tricks with you and give you sore boobs and twinges etc so who knows! Need to think more PMA PMA PMA PMA PMA for the next 4 days Laughing

I hope you are feeling well Kitkat and looking forward to some time off in the sunshine over the Easter Holidays, it won't be long now Very Happy

Denny · 25 Dec 2010

Footsteps

Good luck for tomorrow, I have everything crossed for you, will be waiting for your update.

xx

Footsteps2 · 22 Sep 2011

Well its not good news from me..... its a BFN Sad

! I have called Eugin to let them know and I am just waiting for the co-ordinator to call to confirm everything with me and about stopping taking the meds etc... We are totally gutted, but have said we will go back for another try as soon as we can, hopefully in the next few months. We are just glad that we got given the chance to get this far this time round and who knows maybe get lucky and get over the 2ww hurdle with a positive result next time round Smile

Denny nice to hear from you.. I hope you are keeping well x

Footsteps x

Kitkat1 · 13 Jul 2011

Oh Footsteps I'm so so so so sorry ! I know nothing anyone can say or do will help, but my thoughts are with you......

xxxxxx

vip · 16 May 2007

Footsteps, i am sorry about your bfn, big hugs to you Sad

Sending you lots of good wishes and luck for your next attempt xx

Denny · 25 Dec 2010

Hi Footsteps

I am so sorry to hear you did not get the result you were hoping for, next time though the result WILL be the one you both want.

This is now going to turn into a ME post!

We are still deciding what to do next.

We had our eggs tested (6 fertilized of 8 collected - 2 then fertilized abnormally)) and they were all abnormal so did not have the trauma of going through ET and then the 2WW to only have either a BFN, miscarried or worse later down the line, so the Array was definitely the right decision for us especially as the Embryologist said three of them looked like good quality embryos and would have been put back without the Array - so it just proves that "looking good" really is just the luck of the draw.

Really three choices now, try again with my eggs but seems little point as all of the statistics that you believe you can defy are actually true, DE which is not something we ever were going to contemplate and still not sure we can get our head around it or we get on with our lives!

We are very fortunate with the life that we have and each other my DH is such a wonderful man who worships the ground I walk on as do I him, maybe this is enough, I know my DH just wants me to be happy so he will do whatever I want to do. I do not want this to dominate our lives forever as life is just too short.

You read the messages of the ladies that have been trying for years and years and years and have endured treatment after treatment, problems with partners and seem so unhappy with life and at the same time life is passing them by.

I was never one that wanted children from an early age and for a long long time enjoyed life, travelling, living abroad, starting my own business, doing just what we want when we want etc and still do...............

We have been together for 15 years and it only really seemed important about 4 years ago after we got married, not something we had contemplated before - the opposite in fact - now I'm not sure whether it was the getting married (bit old fashioned about children out of wedlock) or just the age thing ticking away........................on my part that started us on this rollercoaster.

Well that's enough waffling on, I have a rare day (well almost) off and and going to enjoy the sun...........windows all open, can hear the lambs in the field behind so today is not a day to be missed.

Kitkat - hope you are keeping well and enjoying your expanding waistline.

Footsteps - your time will come, I hope you have got all the info you need from the clinic about your meds and trying again, take sometime to enjoy each other as it is so easy to forget that the two of you will always be together whatever happens.

xx

Footsteps2 · 22 Sep 2011

Denny - so sorry to hear that things didn't work out for you Sad

and as you say although you had some good looking embryos, they tested abnormal.. and if not tested would have been good enough to transfer... but may have led to bfn or miscarriage etc.. I wish you both all the luck in world with whatever you & DH decide xx

I agree that when we get on the rollercoaster we forget how to live or have fun/laughter etc... I do feel like I have put my life on hold whilst on this rollercoaster and am finding it very difficult to lead a normal life at the moment both at work and at home and pray for that moment of when we do succeed that all the sunshine and smiles will re-enter our lives again! Well Eugin have sorted everything out and e-mailed us our protocol for us to start again (which we can do immediately!) they don't hang about Laughing

However the Dr has recommended that DH have a karyotype blood test (but not obligatory) anyway we have said we will have it done and DH booked in for Weds at care to have it done... so hopefully it will rule out any chromosomal abnormalities? On the other hand it has got our brains ticking over again about what if there are issues? do we go for PGD? clinic in spain don't do this, or do we go for donor sperm? so that will be double donor for us.. like your DH Denny, my DH worships the ground I walk on and will do whatever it takes to make me happy and has already said he has no issues with it Smile

but we will wait and see what the results are first.. I think it takes approx 4wks for the results to come through. So hoping that we can start another cycle may/june time. I am on a thread specifically for Eugin on fertility friends and a lady who had dble donor had her transfer just over a week after me got a bfp yesterday.. I am absolutely made up for her, but at the same it made me all emotional and upset again that it hadn't worked for us Sad

Well that's enough of the me post.... on a brighter note:

Kitkat - I hope you are enjoying your sunshine break over the easter holidays xx

Take care all, and have a great Easter.. and for those working like me.. don't work too hard!

Kitkat1 · 13 Jul 2011

Hello Ladies

My heart goes out to you both xx

Denny, totally understand what you're saying, DH and I decided from the start that the cut off point for trying would be when he turned 50, as we did not want it to take over our lives. Hence we started the IVF journey 6 months before. We reckon we fell pregnant actually on his 50th birthday, as we weren't really trying anymore as we were starting injections that week, and the dates fit. I'd taken him on a track day driving a Ferrari, Aston, and Lambourghini, and he reckons he just had loads of testosterone pumping around LOL !

Footsteps, I remember our first appointment with Care, we were asked if we wanted to go down the IVF route exhaustively to get a baby, or would it be a final attempt before deciding it wasn't going to happen but we'd have the knowledge that we'd tried everything. I couldn't answer, and still couldn't.

Am enjoying peace and quiet while DH is away, weather been great down here, so nice leisurely dog walks in the sunshine. DH is back Thursday, and we go to Spain on Saturday. Strange to think this will be our last holiday alone ! 6 month bump getting in the way now, and I swear little one was auditioning for Riverdance in there yesterday morning Smile

I feel guilty when I tell you ladies how I'm doing. I know you are both really happy for me, as I would be in the opposite situation, but also know it will probably bring twinges of sadness for you, as you say Footsteps, which I totally understand.

Hope you both have a relaxing Easter, and eat and drink too much Wink

xxx

Footsteps2 · 22 Sep 2011

Kitkat - Please forgive me and do not feel guilty about posting your updates Embarassed

I didn't mean to make you feel that way in my post sorry Embarassed

xx I enjoy reading your updates so post away... I was just feeling down and a bit sad & emotional on hearing someones elses good news and thinking I wished it was me too xx I am totally over the moon for anyone that gets a bfp and really happy for you & DH Smile

You have not got this far without your own fair share of this rocky ride on the rollercoaster yourselves too! I have staff coming to me to tell me of their news throughout the year every year (and another today.. ) so should be use to it by now ?? and one day, yes it will be our turn and I am sure when I get to post my joyous news it will sadden others too, but sadly it is only natural to feel this way.

Anyway enough of me droaning on! I hope you have a fabulous time in the spanish sunshine! doesn't look like we are going to get any here over the next few weeks Laughing

relax and indulge lots! and I want to hear all about it when you get back Smile

Kitkat1 · 13 Jul 2011

Footsteps, please don't apologise, I only wanted you to know I understand ! I have felt exactly the same over the last few years on hearing friends and colleagues good news too.

DH just told me it's snowing heavily in the Cairngorms, so am hoping and praying it clears for them to start driving home Wednesday morning, and he'll be back in time for us to leave as planned first thing Friday

xxx

Footsteps2 · 22 Sep 2011

I know you understand Kitkat x and thank you for understanding, I just didn't want you feeling guilty about posting and keeping us updated with your progress xx Its awful that IVF can make you feel like this and unless you have gone through it nobody else will ever understand and that's why these boards are so great because we are all going through it or have gone through it.

As I was just replying I was having a bit of an 'emotional moment' and my mobile just rang and it was my sisters mobile? she never calls anyone on her mobile because she has never got any credit Laughing

and when I answered it, I just heard this little voice saying hello! hello! in and it was my 2yr old niece, so it has just made my day and put a big smile on my face Smile

The simple and little things in life make a difference Smile

They said it was going to snow in places this week... and they were right for a change! The climate has gone so strange... it's April!! Laughing

I so hope it does clear up and causes no problems for DH travelling home. Its just raining here.. even the cats have come in early and gone to bed?!

Footsteps2 · 22 Sep 2011

Evening Ladies

Kitkat - I hope that you had a super, sunfilled, relaxed holiday Smile

It cant be too long before you finish work to go on maternity! how exciting! x

Denny - I hope you are well too x

AFM - its all been happening! Whilst waiting for DH karyotype result before cycling again in Spain... we got a call from Care out of the blue with a match!! well almost a match.. but happy with it anyway Smile

so we will be cycling very sooon with Care this time round. We feel that we have to take every opportunity available to us. Bizarre that we go from wondering how long we have to wait and when we are going to get a donor etc.. then all of a sudden got 2 clinics offering lol! Well DH's karyotype result is all fine so we can get rid of that little gremlin that has been sitting on our shoulders for the last 3wks!

Take care xx

Kitkat1 · 13 Jul 2011

Hi Footsteps

That's great news !! I'm a great believer in fate, and the call from Care seems like fate to me Very Happy

Had a lovely week in Spain thanks. DH did all the annual maintenance jobs, I supervised and was on tea/coffee/beer/lunch duty Cool

After this week only 3 weeks left at work, but only cos I have to take all my annual leave before maternity leave. Officially starting maternity leave on due date, or before if baby makes an early appearance. Had a midwife check yesterday, and little one still in breech position, but still time to turn. I'll be 31 weeks tomorrow.

Denny, hope you're OK, and have come to a decision you're both happy with

xxx

Footsteps2 · 22 Sep 2011

Kitkat - Glad you had a great week 'supervising' and just on refreshment duties! Laughing

How exciting 31 weeks already.. that has flown by Smile

the countdown begins! and you will have plenty of time to chill out before the baby makes his/her appearance Smile

Am sure the baby will turn in time and all will be fine xx

Me & DH said that we could not turn this opportunity down and that it is fate too Smile

Great minds think alike Laughing

Just had to sort out another blood test each, thought we had all of them done! but just one outstanding that we needed for uk donor cycle.. so got it all booked for next week.