CARE Fertility Bulletin Board

wendymw · 01 Feb 2008

Thanks VIP - so do I. I could do with another maternity leave from work! lol

Wendy x

Juleshid · 11 Dec 2007

Hi All

Sorry I've been quiet, it has been a rough old week.

Once again thank you Maple for your amazing advise.

Wendy, good luck sorry our work is giving you grief though, hopefully you'll be on Maternity leave before you know it.

Anna - hope you are feeling better, and less deaf now

Milly - glad your review went well

Lucy - Hope everything is going well

AFM - I did a bit of a silly thing over the weekend, got a bit drunk as it was a friend's birthday, where yet another one of my friends told me she was 13 weeks pregnant, I swear it just doesn't stop. So when I got back in my drunkeness I decided Facebook would be the best place to have a go at my SIL for telling us she was having a baby by facebook message. Well obviously this started a massive fight, which was all my fault, but i was so p'd off at her for doing it that way when my friend had actually bothered to tell me to my face despite the fact that she wasnt looking forward to it - I'd like to point out that I was very good, gave her a hug and told her congratulations.

To which I got this message:

Chucy · 17 Apr 2008

Jules so sorry to hear of your stress with your sil. I hope things settle down again soon. It is so tough. Thinking if both you and dh. I hope you can agree on a way forward.

Vip thx for popping on xx

Anna hope you are doing ok not too long till your scan now. Ps just noticed you live in north Notts. I'm in Retford Smile

Afm another bfn. Had early blood test yesterday. So back to the drawing board as no frosties. We both felt kinda calm tbh. Real mix if emotions as time goes on. Feel unlucky with it not working again but with each we feel more lucky that it has worked once. So Emilia gets more special with each bfn. Also a wierd amount of relief as the bfp is only the start of the worry. I do feel wierd if I'm honest. Anyway we are going to book a holiday and think about next steps. Maybe array, maybe zita, maybe abroad and have Hol at same time.

Hope you all enjoy the bank holiday weekend. Lol Lucy xxxx

Chucy · 17 Apr 2008

Jules so sorry to hear of your stress with your sil. I hope things settle down again soon. It is so tough. Thinking if both you and dh. I hope you can agree on a way forward.

Vip thx for popping on xx

Anna hope you are doing ok not too long till your scan now. Ps just noticed you live in north Notts. I'm in Retford Smile

Afm another bfn. Had early blood test yesterday. So back to the drawing board as no frosties. We both felt kinda calm tbh. Real mix if emotions as time goes on. Feel unlucky with it not working again but with each we feel more lucky that it has worked once. So Emilia gets more special with each bfn. Also a wierd amount of relief as the bfp is only the start of the worry. I do feel wierd if I'm honest. Anyway we are going to book a holiday and think about next steps. Maybe array, maybe zita, maybe abroad and have Hol at same time.

Hope you all enjoy the bank holiday weekend. Lol Lucy xxxx

Maple · 15 Nov 2008

Sorry to barge in again.

Big hugs to Lucy ... I am sorry to hear your news. I knew you were cycling again but didn't know that you have come to the end of it. Emilia is truly a miracle and I know that you appreciate that more than ever now ... but do give yourself time to recoup from the huge disappointment of a BFN. A lovely holidy/break will be just what the doctor has ordered. Take care.

Jules - hugs to you too ... it's hard for other people who do not have IF issues, to understand and be sensitive to those who do. Forgive her (or ignore her) ... just remember, your time will come when you will be able to 'gloat' and show off your miracle baby ... stay strong!

Love,
Maple
xxx

Jazz · 14 Nov 2007

Hi Ladies,

Message for Wendymw. We have spoken a few times before. I have not been on for a while but I am cycling again and have posted a few threads for support. I just read one of your posts and I have justr recieved Pregnyl through the post from a pharmacy called fazely based in the midlands. Their online pharmacy is fertility2you and it was very reasonable also. I recieved all my drugs from there the next day.

Sorry to but in but thought I would mention it. Good luck with your cycle.

wendymw · 01 Feb 2008

Hi ladies.

Lucy, sorry again about your BFN. I think you do have a few options, but it doesn't take away the crappiness of a failed cycle.

Jules, sorry you're having crap with your SIL too. I have made the odd ill judged comment on FB before as well (damn that social media!) and regretted it afterwards, but it sounds like she's obviously got some issues. I'm sure your MIL meant well if she did tell your SIL about Christmas, probably in a sensitive way, i.e. Jules is feeling rubbish and isn't sure about Christmas. I'm sure things will blow over, it's just a shame she can't be more understanding of how you feel. As Maple said, people who don't have fertility issues can never understand how hard it is when other people get pregnant at the drop of a hat.

Big hugs, we're here for you.

Hi to everyone else.

Wendy x

wendymw · 01 Feb 2008

Sorry Jazz, was just posting when you did. Thanks for popping by, I think I'm just going to get my drugs from Care, I know that the Ovitrelle worked for Anna, so keeping my fingers crossed!! I was going to post on a cycle buddies thread, but think most of them are a bit ahead of me, so I might just keep under the radar! lol

Thanks very much for your message and thanks for popping by. Good luck for your cycle too. I'll be keeping an eye on you!

Wendy x

Juleshid · 11 Dec 2007

Lucy - so sorry about your bfn, bighugs.

Thanks to everyone else, will probably just move on as thats what we do with SIL, its just how she is, she can do/say whatever she wants and not look back *sigh* till the next I spazz out at her I guess. (I shouted at her on hols because she was being a brat and neither DH nor his other sister thought telling her to wind her neck in was something they should bother doing). I don't treat her as the family expects, because in my house that crap would never have been allowed to slide. Anyways.

Hope everyone is enjoying their bank holiday, im waiting for the rain to stop so we can take down the shed to get to what remains of our fence.

J x

Jazz · 14 Nov 2007

Hi Wendy,

I know what you mean about sticking with the clinic. It is much easier. As my treatment abroad this time I had to shop around and that is how I got my drugs as they will accept script from CR. Ovitrille is fine I know several people who have used that one. Think I might have on one of my cycles.

Good luck. I am not really synced with anyone at the moment with Egg collection scheduled for early June.

I will keep an eye on you too.xx

vip · 16 May 2007

Hi ladies,

Chucy - really sorry about your BFN, bl*ody crap isn't it - so sorry. I'm sure you'll be able to think clearer about your next moves once you've had a nice time away from it all.

I completely relate to your comments that Emilia gets more special with every failed attempt for sibling...really brings it home how lucky we are to have them doesn't it. Every day I thank my lucky stars for Oliver.

I think that these times in limbo are particulary difficult. Hugs and love from me xx

Julie - I'm sorry to read about your troubles with SIL, must be very hard for you. Please try not to let her get you down. I'm sure things will settle down. Remember yor emotions are still all over the place and things are still raw. Big hugs xx

Going abroad for treatment sounds like an excellent plan too, you have plenty of time to save up and have a holiday at the same time (like Chucy) Very Happy

I know it probably seems like a lifetime away now but your time will come and you've be holding your beautiful baby in your arms. Lots of love xx

AMR80 · 26 Dec 2008

Sorry I have not been around. I got very confused by the change of title. Embarassed

I didn't realise you could do that.

Lucy - Sorry about your BFN. Sad

I know Retford well. I went to secondary school there and I live in Misterton now.

Wendy - Hope your scan goes well and you fill out the correct paper first time. I was lucky to get my hands on Pregnl so didn't have Ovitrelle. Sorry to hear work is mad. Hopefully a mat leave will help, fingers crossed.

Jules- Sorry to hear about problems with your sil. It must be lovely to decide you want a child and be able to acheive it like that or its an accident -grr. I think it is an absolute cheek that your sil says they have put off having children which I dont believe at all. If they wanted them before they would have she is just trying to make you feel bad. Maybe her bloke said because of your situation they should wait because he wasn't ready. I get the Christmas thing completely. My sil was pg and going to have the first grand child in the family and I refused to see them and that stayed the case when treatment worked and Zach was born Oct and it was because of how they distanced themselves from me when they were ttc and made me feel like a social misfit. I had no idea why they stopped contacting me and it was very hurtful. Then i got the call off my brother to tell me my sil was 13 weeks pg and they had their scan that day - nice. I didn't see it coming at all. Things are fine now but it takes time.
I wish treatment wasn't so expensive. They only good thing about my sil being pg was my parents, granny and grandma funded my third cycle.

Milly - Do you know when you are starting?

Katie - Hope you are doing well.

AFM - I am looking forward to stopping the metformin and utrogestran on Wednesday and got my scan a week on Wed. Still suffering nausea and still have my easter eggs unopened which is unheard of for me. My fav food at the mo are crumpets, butter and philidephia. I tried potty training for 2 days but had to abandon as Zach was getting upset and after no wees on the potty he just wasn't getting it so back in nappies.

Anna x

Juleshid · 11 Dec 2007

Wendy, hope your drugs arrived on time and all is going to plan

Anna - hooray for stopping the metformin on utrogestan Smile

Not a lot to tell for me, no sign of AF, but thats not unusual for me after a treatment, just kinda annoying as I never know when its going to turn up. Have sort of sorted it out with SIL, well I apologised some more for having a go at her across FB and she kind of ignored the fact that im upset - apparently I am just wrong, but thats how"we" deal with SIL, shes allowed to say and do whatever she wants and the rest of us tippytoe around her, if she was my sister I'd have nipped it in the bud years ago, but hey ho, she lives up in newcastle so its not like i have to actually see her very often.

We have booked a sort of holiday, we are going to see DH's godson who lives in Germany in August, so hopefully visiting combined with nice weather if im lucky. Godson was an IVf baby, and his mother keeps trying to tell me to go to the clinic she used in Bielefeld (sp?), but as Germany dont allow donor eggs I'm mostly probably not going to do that!

DH still would rather not go again, because, you know, adoption is just easier! Think I might send him to go and read the adoption threads. Bless him ^^.

J x

AMR80 · 26 Dec 2008

Had my 12 week scan today. All was well and the baby was wiggling, kicking and put its palms to the screen. Very Happy

It was such a relief as I have been worrying that the heart may have stopped but it was beating happily. Very Happy

So the little one measured 6.87cm at 13w1 (moved forward 2 days). Very Happy

So since the scan which I will add was 20 mins early - good job I had been drinking water like mad early on I have been shopping in ikea, had dinner at Frankie and Bennys. I have had a fantastic day. The only bummer is over the last couple of days I seem to have mild heartburn started. Sad

I suffered bad last pregnancy for alot of the time. Tried to ring doctors for gaviscon but no answer, think they have home for the day!

How is everyone doing?
Katie - how was your 20 week scan.
Wendy - how is the dr'ing?
Lucy- hope you are well
Milly - have you got a start date for your fet?
Jules - Great news about your holiday. Glad things are marginally better with sil. Sometimes I don't think people know exactly what is involved with adoption and it may seem an easier option.

Anna x

wendymw · 01 Feb 2008

Hi ladies, just a quickie, ought to be packing as we're going on holiday on Monday to Centerparcs and I'm woefully unorganised...

Anna, wonderful news that your scan went well. Sorry about the heartburn, one of those nasty side effects of pregnancy.

Jules, good that you've got a break in Germany booked, it will be nice for you and your DH to get away. Bless your DH for thinking that adoption is easier. I hope that you finally get to have a proper conversation with your DH and bring him round to your way of thinking!

Katie, hope you're doing ok, over half way there now.

Hi to Lucy, VIP and Milly.

AFM I'm on day 9 of Down Reg injections. I'm likely to have to DR for a bit longer as we're away next week (although AF is already 1 day overdue, so having DR scan this week might not have worked anyway), so my DR scan is Tuesday 5th June (they're opening the bank holidays for scans and stuff).

I'm feeling a bit ambivalent about this cycle, I'm almost forgetting my injections every day. I kind of think I'm going through the motions as I have almost no hope that it will actually work. I am also feeling quite bitter as every other woman I meet at the moment is pregnant with their second child (or third), most of them who had babies at the same time as me or after. One of the mum's of a boy at the childminders came to pick her son up on Friday and was flashing her new baby bump off, so I had to just get out of there, so I suspect they'll think I'm particularly rude.

Anyway, sorry to be a grumpy old woman. I'm feeling a bit more positive than I was (well now my second chest infection in less than a month is going and the ribs that I broke coughing are feeling a bit better). Honestly my life seems to be a cacophony of disasters at the moment!

Love to all
Wendy xx

MILLYCURLYLOCKS · 03 Apr 2008

hi everyone
sorry not been on for a while lifes been pretty hectic have worries over restructure plans at work and just havent got a clue what they are planning hopefully a meeting i attend tommorw will have some answers. Well i started to DR on the 23rd and have scan on the 6th june. There is no sign of AF yet probably come a day before scan. Ive not had much time to think about the treatment and the injections seem such a routine. I wish I could be more positive about treatment but seem to gear myself up for a BFN to prepare myself for it. This will be my 6th cycle so not sure if i will cycle again after this.

Anna glad to hear all is going well x

Wendy looks like were cycling together and on long protocol are u having a FET x

Jules a holiday sounds great i could so do with a holiday x

wendymw · 01 Feb 2008

Milly, looks like we're cycling together as I'm on a fresh cycle again (I have never had any frosties), I started DR on 18th, but because we've been away this week (just got back from center parcs today) my DR scan isn't until Tuesday (5th), so we could be neck and neck again. I know what you mean about taking injections being part of a routine, I've had to set an alarm every night to remind me to do them! I'm suffering a bit though as I'm extremely grumpy and have got a DR headache today - it's because I'll have been DRing for longer than I need to be I guess.

Hope your meeting at work went well and fingers crossed this works for us both this time! I know what you mean about gearing up for a negative result. This is my 4th cycle (not as many as you obviously!), but it is a bit wearing and I'm not sure if I could go again after this one. At the moment it's pretty run of the mill, but once you get to first stimms scan and thinking about the number of eggs you may get, then egg collection and whether any fertilise and all the rest of that... Not to mention the dreaded 2ww.

Anyway, I hope all the other ladies are doing ok.

Wendy xx

MILLYCURLYLOCKS · 03 Apr 2008

hi wendy
hope your headache sas eased. im still waiting for AF to rrive i hope it comes soon. I agree the DR is the less stressful part of IVF. Hopefully this will be our turn for a BFP. It will be nice for us to be in 2ww together.

My meeting at work was not great they expecting me to be more flexible i already go oncall 24 hours a day at least twice a week. if my cycle works i will look forward to maternity Very Happy

. x

wendymw · 01 Feb 2008

Milly my af was 3 days late this time- typical when you're waiting for it to arrive. Headache seems to have gone today and I'm slightly less grumpy!!

Work sounds rubbish. What do you do to have to be on call? It sounds a bit difficult particularly if you have kids. Let's hope this works and we both get mat leave again!!

W x

KatieH · 27 Mar 2008

Hi Ladies

Well thought Id give you all a quick update. My 20 week scan went well and didnt find out if boy or girl although desperate to know now as Edward keeps saying he wants a baby sister!
We have been busy recently and in the middle of buying a repossesed house. We should get contracts sorted/swapped in a week or two then we will be busy decorating and trying to rent our house out. At least the next 20 weeks will keep me busy Lol

Wendy - Glad AF arrived, it is almost always late when you need it to come. I really hope this works this time for you! certainly to get the maternity leave and then maybe find a new job next year.

Lucy - hope you have managed to pick yourself up again and think about cycling again. I know what you mean about feeling so lucky to have it work once already, they do become even more special

Anna - glad the 12 week scan went well. Will you find out at 20 weeks if buy or girl?

Millycurly locks- good luck with the cycle. Hope d/r AF arrives soon

Juleshid - hope you have a nice holiday and maybe make a decision on what to do next

Take care everyone. I will keep popping on x

MILLYCURLYLOCKS · 03 Apr 2008

hi everyone

katie congrats on your 20 week scan i would have to know boy or girl im so impatient

hi wendy i support people with learning disabilities and manages a staff team of 25. can be hard work but very rewarding. how u getting on. i had to cancel dr scan no sign of af never waited this long before. the clinic had told me to call after a day of af starting. x

wendymw · 01 Feb 2008

Typical isn't it Milly! Sorry you're having to hang on, hope AF shows her face - ironic spend your life waiting for it not to come and then it doesn't come when you want it to. I went for my down reg scan yesterday, but scan wasn't conclusive, so had bloods, but had to wait until today for results.

Anyway, I am down regged, so just taken my first stimms. Got to take menopur and gonal f, so on 3 injections now, which is a right pain - literally! Mixing the gonal f is new as well as it's got its own syringes with it.

Katie, sounds like you're keeping very busy with the new house and being over half way there. I must admit I think I'd be more inclined to find out what I'm having second time around, although Theo was a surprise (literally coming so early, but I didn't know the sex either until he popped out). I think Theo would like a brother.

Lucy, looks like you're going to be doing the 3 jabs too. Let us know when you decide to start, you never know we might be close together again...

VIP I think you're back from jollies, so hope you've had a great time and are raring to go with your FET.

Anna, have you got a date for your 20 week scan yet?

Jules, how are you doing my lovely? Have you managed to work on your DH yet?

Anyway, hope I've got everybody. Got first stimms scan next Weds when I'll have been stimming for a week. Will be intrigued to see if the added Gonal F does anything extra. This is wierd, but I took my jabs about 20 minutes ago and I can swear I can feel my ovaries doing something. Maybe it's wind Embarassed

Wendy x

MILLYCURLYLOCKS · 03 Apr 2008

hi everyone

wendy glad your stimming x

well 16 days of dr and no sign of af never took this long before my boobs are killing me hope it comes soon x

wendymw · 01 Feb 2008

Milly, you never know, you might be pregnant - I've never had sore boobs with down regging! That would be ironic wouldn't it. I guess we can live in hope!!

Well, I'd be living in miracle world on the basis I haven't done the deed for 3.5 years!

Wendy x

MILLYCURLYLOCKS · 03 Apr 2008

lol wendy it sure would be a miricle since i have no tubes he he x