CARE Fertility Bulletin Board

Lazyhayes · 28 Jun 2006

WOW Tania thats fab a boy and a girl, you sound a lot happier in your post, half way there already time really does pass, and great news on the doppler at least you can tune in!!! and hear them which must be a nice thing to do, so happy for you xx

j&t · 05 Dec 2007

Hello all, just popped on to tell you all our 20 week scan will be on 30 july. Can't wait to see bubba again. We've decided to be boring and not find out what we're having. Can't wait

talk to you all soon

xx

Hockeychick · 23 May 2007

Hi Girls,

Well its late but I can't sleep as still buzzing from our 20week scan today. OMG what an experience. It was amazing. JUnior has grown loads and we could see so much detail (brain, kidneys, stomach, bones and all four chambers of the heart) - just incredible. Was so overwhelmed, its a miracle!!! Feel so blessed. We haven't found out the sex as we wanted to wait.

We spent the rest of the evening drawing up a short list of names for boys and girls(which I;m sure will change quite a bit between now and dec) but its been a fantastic day.

Happy happy days

Beth x x x

Rallygirl · 06 Mar 2006

Just popping in to see how you all are, it's all go on this thread, isn't it!?!!

Tania, I read a book yesterday about a woman confined to bed rest whilst pregnant - I was too, it's very boring but very worth it! It made me think of you. Hoping time passes twice as quickly from now and that you don't need to stay in hospital for all that time. Glad to hear one of your placentas is moving too!

Jo xx

Jazz · 14 Nov 2007

Morning ladies,

Not a great post I am afraid but a happy ending. Please do not be offended none is meant.

I have been so worried about PND and purphrel pychosis (this could be to do with my job) and just normal everyday being a mother. I know that sounds really self indulgent and with the struggle we have all had I don't want anyone to be offended so sorry. I have felt that I can't get too close because they could be taken away from me. Some days I don''t even feel pregnant and it is like a dream.
I have been worrying about bonding with my baby and how I will ever be a
good mother.

On Tuesday night I did the doppler abd the HB was so clear and
I felt much better. I then woke up on Wednesday morning bleeding quite
heavily. I carried on getting ready for work in a daze and the just broke
down and called DH to come home. I called the midwife and got sent
straight to A&E. I was examined so many times and then the doctor could not
find a HB and I just spent 5 hours sobbing and blaming myself for thinking
such awfull things. I am never complacent but also was starting to feel that
all would be ok. My sister in Law and her boyfriend and DH all stayed at
the hospital with me. After 5 hours they did a scan and bubs was quiet but
heart was beating and he/she is growing normally. Scan should have been great but, I struggled to look at the screen I was so worried and could not see much through my tears. DH did get a picture though and bubs has grown so much. I feel completly
tramatised today and am on bed rest untill the bleeding stops. They could
not see where the bleed was coming from which is good news but I find it
worrying because I want to know what was/is wrong. I am so relieved bubs is
ok though.

I have been so worried and almost waiting for something to go wrong. Worrying that we have bought things too sone etc etc. I am now sick from work and don't know how long that will be for. I do now know that my baby is so important to me I am sure that I have already bonded. It is strange how it suddenly hits you.

Sorry no personals today. I hope everyone is OK.

Hockeychick · 23 May 2007

Jazz,

So sorry to hear about your day. Make sure you take plenty of rest and hang onto happy thoughts. it is such a worrying time for you and its only natural to feel that way but you are in good hands.
I'm thinking about you. Take care of yourself and your precious bubs. Feet up lady.

We're all here for you.

Beth x

Newby · 17 Jun 2006

Jazz - please don't worry, what you are feeling is natural, i am sure most of us felt like you at some time or other during our pregnancy. I know when i was pregnant with james that i didn't relax until he was born and then all the worrying starts agian, part of being a mother!!

Take lots of rest and do as doctors say but don't beat yourself up about any of it!!

Luv Lisa.

Reds(1703) · 20 Sep 2005

Jazz,

What a time you've had! Make sure you rest, rest & more rest and put you & bubs as NUMBER ONE priority - or else Wink

Hormones play such a huge part in how you think & feel while pg (and afterwards Rolling Eyes

), that there really is no room for rationality.

Big hugs.

lol
Reds
xx

bunjack · 22 Jan 2006

Hi girls!

Jazz - so sorry to hear you had such a bad day, think it was just your body reminding you to take things easy. Glad everything looks fine and hope you are able to make the most of the time off work to rest up. We've all been there with the pessimistic thoughts - as Lisa says - it's preparing you for a lifetime of worrying about your child! Really hope you are able to feel happier about all this soon - my 20 wk scan was a turning point for me and the movements are always reassuring. Take care Hun x

Claire G - glad your 20wk scan went well. Lol at you getting 2 new cars though! I bumped ours yesterday on a wooden post and haven't decided yet whether to confss to dh! Only a scratch but he'll be cross.

Lorrainne - hope you are feeling better too hun - hang on in there I'm sure it'll pass. 9 months is a long time to wait for your baby = especially if you add the IVF treatment time and all the other TTC time built into this effort - it is real and you will feel better soon I hope.

Tors - glad to hear your 20 wk scan went off okay too - it really is special isn't it?

Peacock - good to hear from you as well - when is your 20 week scan, must be soon?

Tania - lovely to hear about your 20wk scan and terrific to hear it's one of each. You can really think about getting ready for them now....but make sure dh does all the work! Keep resting hun.

Streeto - glad to hear you are okay - I'm on iron tablets too although have to confess I'm not very good at remembering to take them all the time and plays havoc with my bowels!

J&T - good to hear about your 20wk scan - wont be long til it now!

Shar - lol at you now needing mat clothes - hope you found some nice ones. Hope the back ache isn't too bad.

Beth - pleased your 20wk one was good too. We've not even got down to names yet - I have this sticking point on insisting we have a Welsh name for our children...I'm alright for girls but struggling with boys names I can pronounce let alone spell - and then there's how will others cope with it!!

Reds - thanks for checking up on us all!

So - sorry not been on this week. Have had a great time in Prague - was lovely to spend some time actually in the same place as DH for a change. We walked for miles so very knackered when we got back but am making sure I pace myself everyday now. Had another huge nosebleed on the plane there - and forgotten to put tissues in hand luggage! Great time to go travelling girls - everyone got up and gave me a seat on the trams and metro - think I may buy a cushion for future hoildays when not pg!

Glad to hear all seems to be going well for us all (even if there were a couple of scares) I'm really beginning to get so positive about it all and bonding well with bubs these days.

Hi to all other Bunnies
Bethan x

Claire_G · 12 Aug 2006

Hi Ladies,

Tania:- Im so made up for you! Boy and Girl, such wonderful news!

Jazz:- Gosh hun, sounds like you are going through it a bit at the moment. Pleased that your little one is doing well sounds like the nasty pregnancy hormones are getting the better of you. I think it's so normal to feel the way you do, more so with us IVF ladies. We try so hard and want so badly for such a long time our little ones that when we are so lucky to be blessed we find it overwhelming, IYKWIM, and this can bring on a huge amount of thoughts and emotions. Maybe when you are off bedrest, you could get some counselling? I believe there is such a thing as ante natal depression, perhaps a bit of help could help you relax and turn your fears and anxities into calmness and happiness.. Listen to me, Im not want to preach, believe me I have my really bad irrational hormonal days!!! Maybe a bit of bedrest will also do you good, get some decent sleep hun XX Thinking of you X

Just been on the Next VIP sale and bought over £200 on maternity and baby clothes!!!!!! Most will prob go back, but it was fun! Anyone else indulged?

Wriggler seems to be getting more active, or is it that I can feel him/her more? It's so great feeling him/her move about.

We have booked a short break for 1 September, for 4 nights. Only going to Yorkshire so not too far for us and near a hospital just incase. Cant believe how fast time is ticking now.

Hi to everyone,

Claire G x

sara c · 07 Jun 2004

Hi Girlies,

At last I thought I would post to you all. I have been watching you all from a far but just can't really bring myself to post daily on here just yet. I am now 17wks 2days pregnant and its so far so good for me. Having a few movements which are reassuring but then have days where I don't feel anything and the panick sets in. You know what I mean. I think the reason I won't fully come on board is because of my history. You may have read my story somewhere on the board. My first little boy Morgan was stillborn at 32wks and had a heart defect and we have been given a 1 in 4 chance of this happening again. We have been advised to terminate such a pregnancy and they can only start looking for this at 20wks so we are very cautious as you can imagine. We did have another little boy Callum who is a picture of health and hoping luck is on our side again. Anyway thats why I am a bit scared of coming over at the moment. That along with the fact I have been really upset by Marshmallow's news and reminded of those terrible days of losing Morgan.

Anyway here goes to catch up with you all.

Claire, glad to see all is well with you hun. When you can feel bubba move it is so lovely and reassuring isn't it. Your short break sounds lovely and I'm sure you will be fine and have a fab time.

Bethan, nice to see things are going well for you. I'm glad you had a great time in Prague. It's great when you start to show and people actually go out of their way for you isn't it? I'm still at the is she isn't she stage, the stage where people think your pregnant but don't ask just in case you have put weight on.

Jazz, I have been following you really closely as I am due the day before you on Christmas Eve. I totally know what you mean about alwasys worrying that something will go wrong, I think it's only natural especially after going through IVF and waiting so long for this to happen. Please be reassured that everything is ok and just rest, rest, rest. The hospital wouldn't have let you come home if they were worried. Take it easy hun.

Hockeychick, Glad your scan went well, its amazing to see them in so much detail and to see how much they have grown isn't it. Take care.

Streeto, I nearly invested in a doppler but as much as I know it would reassure me, I'm sure it would make me panick aswell if bubba was hiding. I remember having iron tabs after Callum was born and all I can remember is being really constipated. LOL

Tania, A boy and a girl how wonderful, I'm so pleased for you. Can't say I'd want to be in hospital for all those weeks but it is the best place for you hun. Here's hoping they decide you can stay at home honey. Loads of luck.

shar, glad things are all well with you. We daren't even think about names yet. When we had Callum we had thought of a few names but we decided on Callum when he was about 2 hours old and hadn't even considered it up until then. Weird!

Mrs C, sounds like you have been really busy with the family ect. It sounds as though your scan was great its nice that bubba put a show on for his mummy and daddy, perhaps he/she is preparing you for the fact they will be full of life when they arrive.

Hi to all the other bunnies, sorry if I have missed you out. Have a good weekend and I will catch up with you all next week.

Have fun Sara xx

bunjack · 22 Jan 2006

Sara -
Great to hear from you.
Can understand your nervousness completely but fingers crossed for you hun.
When is your 20wk scan?

Do you want me to add you to our front page - would love to have you with us.
Take care of your self and try to keep positive.

Bethan x

Streeto · 07 Sep 2007

Hi girls,
Just a quickie to say my 20 week scan went well today- both twins were lying side by side, heads down- so cute to see them kicking each other. didn't find out what we are having but sure its a boy and a girl!!! next scan in 4 weeks time.

Jazz, take it easy- bleeding is awful my world fell apart when i experienced it- keep postive you little one is doing fine- its just your body chucking out what it doesn't want.

lots of love
streeto xxx

bunjack · 22 Jan 2006

Streeto -

So glad to hear you had a great 20 wk scan, hope the kicking of each other eases up though!!!!

Hope everyone else is okay - went to 2 parties today - a bowling and a swimming one - knackered now! Off to Gullivers at Milton Keynes tomorrow so lots of sitting round watching dd and dh on rides!!!

Bethan x

Tania · 01 Aug 2006

Hi Ladies

Hope everyone had a good weekend

Bethan – Glad to hear that you had a lovely time in Prague. Hope you & your family enjoyed Guillivers Land.

Jazz – I hope you are doing ok, you are also going through the mill at the moment. Don’t worry too much about your emotions this whole IVF & pregnancy is such a strain on our emotions as well as our bodies. I hope that the bleeding has eased & that you are getting plenty of rest. Boring as it can be I know that the rest is helping my pregnancy & I hope it helps yours also.

Streeto – Great to hear that your 20 week scan went well, our two were also kicking each other. How are you getting on with your doppler. I am so glad I bought mine. So far my red blood cells are still within normal range, unlike my platelets, so I haven’t had to have iron tablets yet. Last time I was pregnant with twins I had to take two sachets of Spatone iron water in orange juice every day I was advised they were easier to take than the tablets.

SaraC – I can understand your apprehension about your 20 week scan. Finger crossed that everything goes well for you.

Claire_G – Sounds like you got lots of nice things in the next sale. I was going to buy a few maternity bits but there doesn’t seem much point as I can’t really go anywhere. Great to hear that your little one is getting more active, mine are too. Your short break sounds fab, we were supposed to be going away next week but due to our circumstances we have had to cancel.

Beth – Great to hear your 20 week scan went really well. It’s amazing what you can see.

Reds – Thanks for your congratulations, I didn’t mind what they were as long as they were healthy.

Jan – Thanks for your congratulations, I hope you & the rest of the Dreamers are doing ok.

Rallygirl – Thanks for thinking of me. I know that bed rest is the best thing I can do so I am trying to keep myself occupied.

Peacock – Have you had your 20 week scan yet?

J & T – Not long till your 20 week scan hope the time flies by.

Harri & Tors & Lorraine & Shar & Claire (mollycat) – Hope you are all doing ok.

Well we have been to see my consultant today & he is very pleased with the results from my scan. He is hoping that the placenta will continue to move out of the way. As for putting me in hospital, he is still undecided but is very pleased that my bed rest at home seems to be working well. I have another appointment with him in 2 weeks where he will look at my cervix length & decide about the stay in hospital then. I have a midwife appointment next week & another scan booked in 4 weeks.
Love Tania xxx

bunjack · 22 Jan 2006

Tania - glad to hear the placenta is moving and things weem to be going well. I'm glad your bed rest seems to be working at home for you and the twins are behaving. They certainly seem to be keeping an eye on you which is great.

Jazz, haven't heard from you for a few days which is not like you, hope you are okay hun.

I had a m/w appointment today - no problems. Took Carys so she got to hear the heartbeat which was great, her face was a real picture! Back there in 3 weeks.

Hope everyone else is getting on fine
Bethan x

bunjack · 22 Jan 2006

Claire G - Karen has posted you a message on awaiting scans. Seems she is due....like now!

Quiet week this week - everyone okay - enjoying the sunshine perhaps. make the most of it!
School broke up yesterday so 6 weeks of fun (!) I've got 4 girls for a picnic today - how many rows do you think we'll all have and will the house take it?

Bethan x

Mrs C · 11 Jan 2008

Hello All

Well all is good with us although after a rather manic week last week travelling round the country catching up with people .. I had a bit of a scare on Friday night and ended up in hospital being checked over! It turns out I had probably carried my suitcase one too many times and pulled a muscle in my chest as I was very tight and breathless. The baby was fine and moving around lots so I was not so concerned about that .. more that I had pre eclampsia or something! Anyway after a quietish weekend .. I am feeling GREAT again now!

We had a wonderful day on Tuesday ... we were invited to attend a Garden Party at Buckingham Palace and although we did not get to meet the queen personally .. she walked very close to us. It was really special and really exciting that our little baby made it to the palace before it was even born!

Its been lovely weather here so fingers crossd it will stay! I have a get together on Sat with my old school friends and their hubby's and kids! One of my friends is also preggers so will be fun to share stories!

Right off for a shower and to get dressed!

Hope that all is going well for everyone.
Tors xx

Claire_G · 12 Aug 2006

Hi Ladies,

Just thought I would pop on for a catch up.

I went to the RHS show at Tatton Park with my Mum on Wednesday. We had a lovely day. It was a stark reminder for my last cycle last year. Id had my BFP, but had bleeding and I went to the RHS last year so full of worry..I was right to worry too. It was so nice to be able to go this year with bump in tow and to feel so much more relaxed. Just feel so lucky and blessed at the moment.

Tors:- Mixing with Royality hey! Sounds like you had a great day.

Jazz:- Hope you are ok, you dont seem to have been around for a while X

Tania:- Sounds like things are going well for you. 40 weeks will be here before we know it!

Bethan:- Thanks for telling me about Karens message, bless her. Hope you are enjoying your break from school.

Right off put my new plants from the show in the garden!

Bye

Claire G x

j&t · 05 Dec 2007

Hello everyone, sorry i've not been on for a while but been enjoying the first week of my hols.

needless to say been very busy....Wallpaper stripping is very theraputic, but i was annoyed at not being able to help pulling the skirting boards off. We've given ourselves three weeks to decorate two rooms, and the the carpets coming ...... at long last yippee....

Scan next week and can't wait,....

Nice to hear all of your stories and thanks for putting me on the front page.

bunjack · 22 Jan 2006

Tors - what a week you've had! And hark at you hob nobbing with royalty! Hope the school get togethr went well and you're feeling okay now. Take it easy girl!

Claire G - glad you had a more positive trip to the RHS thi syear - it's horribl;e revisiting places where you suffered in the past but as you say so nice ot go and rub your tum in all these places now! Hope you got your plants in okay.

J&T - don't overdo it with the decorating! What rooms are you doing - one for the baby? Good luck with your scan next week - let us know how you got on.

Nothing much to report here except having a great girlie time with dd while dh away (he got wet in the rain in Spain today - ha ha !) She's been brilliant and we've had such a laugh! Making the most of the weather too, think it's due to change soon - groan.
Bubs kicking about well too so all happy here tonight at any rate!

Hope all are well

Bethan x

Jazz · 14 Nov 2007

Hi Everyone,

Sorry I have not been around for a while and thank you for all you kind and reassuring messages.

I have been resting as ordered too by doctor and have been on the doppler every day. HB is very strong and loud. No real movement yet which makes me think that earlier movement was my imagination. Bleeding has stopped and has not returned for about a week now so that is good news. I have my 20 week scan on 5th August so will feel much better after that I think.

I am still anxious and a bit raw from the experience. I was just begining to let it all sink in and I also think this is why I was feeling so detatched and worried about being a mum. I have swollen up a lot ankles, hands and tummy which is a bit uncomfortable but all part of the process. I did get off lightly in the first 3 months so it's only fair.

Sara, Its lovely to see you over here. I am glad all is going well for you.

Tania, I know you have also been through the mill and that it is still going on for you. It is so so scarey. I am glad things are getting better and you placenta has moved. eep up with the rest.

Sorry to all other ladies for not doing all personals. I am really gratefull to you all for your messages. I will try to get back on later.

Lots of love

pixiekaren1 · 04 May 2007

Sorry for gate crashing, just want to say a big hello to Claire G, cant believe you're half way there already Shocked

.....hope you are well xx Bethan thanks for passing on my message Very Happy

xx Jazz sorry to interfere but just to let you know I didnt feel any (& I mean any) movement until I was 21 weeks (& I must admit it worried me sick, esp cos everybody in work was telling me they had been feeling flutters practically since they 1st concieved Rolling Eyes

!!)) but now I think I must have internal bruising from the little tinker....the main thing is the HB is nice & strong & the bleeding has settled down. Good luck for your 20 week scan xx

Good luck to all of you, enjoy every minute that you can, Love Karen xx

Jazz · 14 Nov 2007

Hi Karen,

Thanks for interfearing. It is nice to know that I am normal. The support is great. Are you overdue or do you have your beautiful baby? If you are still waiting I hope you have a speedy labour and a wonderful time.

bunjack · 22 Jan 2006

Jazz - great to hear from you hun - you had me worried for a little moment! What's this aout you thinking you're normal though?????
Serious pleased to hear you've settled down a bit and glad the doppler is reassuring. The 5th Aug is not long now and that was the big turnng point for me finally believing it all so hope you get that too.
Keep resting!

Having an off day today - dh away in Spain and it's really hot so decided to sort through stuff in study. There are 3 seperate BBq's in our cul de sac and we're at home billy no mates with the house stinking of other peoples burgers and also my washing on the line!
Oh well, another day tomorrow - serves me right for thinking yesterday was so much fun!

Hope you are all keeping cool
Bethan x