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BobbieB · 07 Feb 2008

Mel, sorry Embarassed

I wasn't implying that you're not doing it right, thought you were asking for advice! x

Mel · 16 Mar 2000

Di, I know you weren't hun.

I didn't have time to finish what I was writing this morning before work either.... was going to add that I find it ludicrous they actually want to speak to a child, especially an adopted one, about having a sibling when there is no time scale involved.

Mel x

Woo · 28 May 2007

Becky - poor you having all that work - i hate sewing i would gladfully pay someone to do it for me!! Please tell me more about your medical - very curious now!! hehe

BobbieB · 07 Feb 2008

Hi angels

Happy Valentine's Day! We don't really celebrate it other than getting each other a card but dh got me a present this year and I have to say it's one (or two) of the most thoughtful presents he's ever got me, it even made me have a tear. He got me a keyring with a photo of the girls in it and a little sort of wallet thing that you put photos in and he has put some in of the girls and left some blank so I can add to it. I was so touched and surprised, it's lovely.

Hope everyone's ok. x

Woo · 28 May 2007

Di - that is nice your DH sounds so thoughtful - glad you had a nice day.

katherine p · 19 Jun 2006

Hi Di I got one of those wallets for xmas- think they are called Brag books! full of pictures of the girls Laughing

problem is I feel bad getting the book out as dont want to be a mummy bore!!

I got a lovely bunch of flowers and a card from DH and one each from the girls! (but I knew about those as they showed me in M&S on Fri which one they had got for me!! We had a lovely cold afternoon at Castle Howard at the adventure playground and the girls have been so fab - drawing in the bath at the moment so the bath will need a good old clean tomorrow!

Woo · 28 May 2007

Kate - glad to hear you had a nice Valenties Day with your family. My DH got me a card and DD. DD and i went to the pictures because DH wasnt well and we went to see Valenties Day it was quite sweet - DD really enjoyed it.

We have been given a provisional panel date of 26th May - it was supposed to be April time but SW thinks we have too much still to do and with the easter holidays and things he thinks end of May will be better. At least we can go on an easter holiday now and not worry. Still to have medicals and references carried out and a few other discussions i suppose.

DD is on holiday from school all this week so DD and i are going to visit my mum in Ayrshire and will not be back until this Sunday - so will come back on next Monday.

Hope everyone has a nice couple of days and weekend.

Take care
Wendyx

Elizabeth hope · 20 Oct 2007

Hi Wendy......sorry I have been a bit AWOL but just wanted to say congrats on your panel date. How are you enjoying Home study? Makes you reflect doesn't it. It will speed up alot soon as you start to get closer to the date and it is truly magical when they say YES...which they will of course do as you are a fab Mummy already.

All ok this end, its been a bit crazy but getting on top of it all a bit more now. Little monkey is getting an amazing sense of humour and gives me hours of fun and is simply far too pretty to be a boy so everyone thinks hes a girl. ( I am of course very biased). He has started snogging his little friend though and was dancing to abba last night so he is very much in touch with his feminine side!! He is also very much a boys boy and loves charging around at the rugby club with the older boys. I can't wait get your good news. Do you hope for boy or girl? What does you little girl wish for?

Take care and I promise to get on here a bit more.

Elizabeth
xxxx

Woo · 28 May 2007

Elizabeth - hun glad to see you on here glad to hear you are doing well and your little boy - he sounds an absolute treasure you sound so happy they do give you hours of enjoyment and enhance your life so much dont they. Your little boy sounds well rounded abba and rugby lol.

Our DD is really excited about the prospect of getting a little brother or sister - she says she would prefer a sister but think would be happy with either one!! I think i would like a little boy but would be happy with anything!! HS is going okay have a visit this Thursday and waiting for medicals sometime soon. DH would like a little boy i think to take to rugby!! Yeah there is a lot to think about when you go through HS - makes you appreciate what you have!!

I am at home today with DD she has been up sick during the night and being sick all morning - scared to go to the shower!! lol

Hope you had a nice weekend. Are you going away at easter time?

Take care
Wendyx

Lady B · 25 May 2009

Hi girls,

Sorry it a me post tonight. I'm just on my way to bed but wanted to let you know our first HS visit has gone really well today. Our SW is fantastic and really put us at ease. He said he wants us at panel by August. He is coming again on Monday for our 2nd visit. I'm so excited now it's all happening Smile

Hope you're all ok. I will come back on tomorrow when DH is on nights and have a proper read through.

Night all xxx

Nefe · 20 Nov 2007

Thats great news Becky and even better news that he wants you at panel by August.

Hope you are all doing well.

Take Care

Love Sam

KSR · 20 Nov 2006

Hi Ladies,

I am wondering If I can join you all!

We have had our first meetings with the social worker and are now just waiting for a date for training!

Please can somone tell us what we can expect in the training ie topics covered and is they anything we can do to prepaire for home study so we are hitting the ground running?

Kate x

vonny · 01 May 2006

Becky,

just wanted to say glad your first HS has gone well and Welcome to Kate.

Still no news to report, our new sw emailed the other day but only to say she is chasing up/waiting for replies on potential matches. There is an adoption event one evening in March that she is going to put us down for - you never know do you!!

LOL
Vonny
x

BobbieB · 07 Feb 2008

Kate - welcome to the thread! Re. home study, you could start thinking about your family tree, support network, thinking about what you would put in your profile to 'sell' yourselves, think about the sort of child/ren you would like to adopt, think about what is motivating you to adopt, start collecting photgraphs of you and your family, home, days out, etc. You could think about who you would like your referees to be. You could do a bit of reading about adoption too. Hope that gives you some ideas.

Becky - glad your hs is underway.

Vonny - let's hope the Mark evening brings some good news your way, fingers crossed for you.

Hi to everyone else.

Woo · 28 May 2007

Becky - glad hun that you have had your first HS visit and things are going well - great that they think August will be your panel date.

Kate - hi there - things will start moving for you quickly - prep groups are okay and not as bad as you think they will be - the people you actually meet are very nice.

Vonny - sorry to hear you are still waiting for things to happen hun.

Sam - any news hun.

We were supposed to be having a SW visit today for HS - but SW cancelled because of the snow and has arranged for next one beginning of March. Both DH and myself are going for our medicals next week should be interesting and SW said he was thinking about contacting our referees. They are now saying 26th May for panel initially it should have been April but SW thinks we have still a bit to go through yet. At least may get away for an Easter holiday.

DD has been off school for three days with sickness bug gone back to school today see how she goes little sole. Had to take our female bunny Holly to the vets today she is getting spayed. I explained to DD that it was the same operation as mummy last year hysterectomy. She said will that mean that Holly will get hot flushes and night sweats too!! Bless!! lol.

Hope everyone else is okay.

Take care
Wendyx

Mel · 16 Mar 2000

Hi Angels

Wendy, hope DD is feeling better today, there are so many sickness bugs going around at the moment. Good to hear you have a panel date, less than 13 weeks to go!

Becky, glad your first HS visit went well. Now you have started the time will fly by, before you know it you will be at panel.

Kate, welcome to the Angels. I would expect most agencies tend to cover the same things on prep courses though there may well be some differences. Ours was a long time ago now but we covered neglect, abuse, behaviour issues, the adoption triangle (child, birth parents, adoptive parents), meeting birth family, sexual abuse etc etc. We were given worse case senarios and endless lists of ALL the issues a child in care could have, some of it was quite hard to hear and at the end of the day we felt drained but determined to make a difference to 1 or more children. The best thing to do is go in with an open mind, remember they have to give you ALL the details to prepare you and for you to work out whether adoption is right for you, and remember at the end of it all you will get a family and you will only be matched with a child that has needs you can cope with. During HS honesty really is the best policy, the better your SW gets to know you the better the match will be.

Vonny, hope your SW gets some positive responses soon.

Sam, thinking of you hun x

Hope everyone else is OK.

We had a HS visit last night and SW came out today to see DS. She stayed for 1.5 hours and DS was shy to start with and then did as expected and played up. He has been a bit clingy since but nothing that we weren't expecting, in fact he has done really well considering the last time a SW was in our house it was to do with him. We only have 1 more HS visit to go but thats not for 2 weeks. We have our medicals to sort and then just waiting for our report to come through and panel in May. Then the waiting starts............

Mel xx

Woo · 28 May 2007

Mel - things are moving quite well for you hun too !! We could be going to panel at the same date!! Why do our children always play up when you want them to be good!! DD is feeling a lot better at least she has the weekend to get much better. We have a SW visit in two weeks time. We have medicals next week. Not sure what to expect at medicals - any advice?

Have a great weekend everyone.

Wendyx

katherine p · 19 Jun 2006

Hi Wendy I too had been dreading the medicals but everything was fine. Our LA had sent a form to the GP and when I got there I had to give a wee sample, the Dr weighed me and measured me and took my blood pressure and then ran through the questions with me, quite general asking about medical conditions in the family etc. Panel will be her before you know it!

Kate welcome to the thread- our prep course covered exactly the points Mel has mentioned, the course can be emotionally draining and challenging as they do paint a very black picture at times but you just need to remember that that is worst case scenario. It was good to meet other people in the same position as us.

Hi to everyone else just a quick post as got two very tired grumpy girls nagging for their tea!! they never stop eating!! They should be twice the size they are Wink

Mel · 16 Mar 2000

Hi Wendy

All being well our panel date is the 21st May so we won't be far apart.

The medical form has changed since we did our last one (like everything else!). Previously a form was sent to our GPs and then we went and did basically as Kate says. This time round the form has come to us and we have to fill in a section and then take it to the GPs to do the rest. All I can say is after going through everything for ivf this was a very easy medical! Smile

Kate, DS is always eating too and very slim, he burns up so much energy from the second he gets up to the second he goes to bed.......why doesn't it work the same for us????

Mel x

Woo · 28 May 2007

Hi Kate - thanks for reply on medicals shouldnt take too long it to be completed thankfully!! How are your girls? They sound as if they are thriving.

Mel - you are just a few days before me in panel. Yeah IVF is quite intrusive so this medical should be a breeze. Hope you have a good weekend.

Wendyx

katherine p · 19 Jun 2006

Hi Wendy the girls are doing really great thanks altho as I'm typing they are crying in the bath because a) it is hair wash night and b) they are over tired Laughing

They've been spoilt rotten today as MIL has looked after them as we've been on an adoption uk course for post adoption families - its a really good course but there are 1 or 2 on it who are so negative and obviously have issues and children with issues! One in particular has really got on my nerves today when he said v patronisingly! sorry but you've had your children 7 months with respect we've had ours for 10 years!!!! could have lamped him one!!

Anyway off for the vino now Rolling Eyes

BobbieB · 07 Feb 2008

OMG Kate - how patronising! Mind you if she's one of the posters from the AUK board then it doesn't surprise me. Do your two not like having their hair washed? Biggie has started playing up when we wash her hair now, she's been rine for 2.5 months now makes a huge fuss.

katherine p · 19 Jun 2006

Hi Di the girls are now usually fine with hair wash but if they are over tired they will winge about EVERYTHING!

Well we were up early as girls had a school friends birthday party at local Wacky Warehouse at 9 this morning!! Took them swimming this pm to try to calm them down as they were bouncing off the walls. Was telling DH earlier I do love observing the girls with their peer group at school etc as I feel more confident now that most of the behaviour we get is simply age related and I love seeing them running around at the parties just being like a "normal" child - do you know what I mean!

Woo · 28 May 2007

Kate - the girls sound as if they had a very eventful weekend!! My DD used to be the same getting her hair washed she is now 10 and still not much better!! lol. I would just ignore negative people like that a put a big smile on your face and not rise to the bait that would annoy them more!! It is good to sit back and watch your children interact with other children. Hope you enjoyed the vino.

Di - how are you doing and the girls.

Went to the pictures at the weekend to see "Its Complicated" it was really funny and a good laugh. Going for my medical tomorrow folks!!

Hope everyone is else is good.

Wendyx

BobbieB · 07 Feb 2008

Kate - I know what you mean about observing other children of the same age - it's a comfort to see they behave exactly the same!

Woo - hope your medicals go well, ours were fine, not intrusive at all. We're all fine thanks, the weeks seem to fly by though! We had a nice weekend as dh was off on saturday so we all got to spend sat and sun together (he usually has a day off in the week). Littlie was sick a couple of evenings last week, we wonder if it was because of the swine flu jab or it may have just been coincidence. Biggie is coughing all night at the moment but is fine in the day, not sure what to do to help her.