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Hi
I'm ready to move forward with another ICSI cycle or adoption. But DH took the failed cycles really bad and I guess isn't ready to move forward yet.
I was generally down about the situation and thought the only way is to move forward. But as DH not ready, I'm stuck! Which means I go back to feeling down about no kid etc.
Anyone been in such a situation? It's been 8 months since our last cycle.
I don't want to push DH, as I know he took things badly after the failed cycles. Just need to be patient and wait for him to be ready, as I cant do anything without him.
Just don't know how long I need to wait and how to deal with this bring 'stuck' stage. I can't mention it to him too much as it would feel like I'm pushing him to hurry up!
Pigs.x |
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April 2011 - ICSI. Bfn
Oct 2011 -ICSI. Zero fertilisation |
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Posted: Tue Jun 19, 2012 3:19 pm |
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Hugs to you
I understand the pain. It took 2 years for DH and I to heal before going again.
I don't have an answer I'm afraid, but just wanted to give you a virtual hug. |
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Me 36, DH 43, TTC 15 years
DX - Me -Tubal Factor (possoble Immune?)
DH - No Issues
IVF #1 - Aug 2010 - BFN  but expected
ICSI # 2 - Sept 2012 BFN totally gutted
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Posted: Tue Jun 19, 2012 6:36 pm |
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Hi, I'm in the same position as you. Our last cycle was nov last year and was low response and failed fertilisation. At the time dh couldn't even consider trying again. It was the end of ivf. I brought the subject up again at the w/e and we are likely to try de (which is a huge step for me).. However, dh doesn't want to think or talk about it until a full year is up. It takes over your life physically and emotionally but I'm sure time does heal. So please don't feel alone.
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TTC 9+ years - AKA Miss Daisy!
2009 Bfn, 2010 bfp - bio chemical pregnancy/early miscarriage
2011 3rd attempt (Short Protocol) and first immune cycle - poor response, 4 eggs. Only 1 mature, zero fertilisation
End of the IVF journey? |
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Posted: Tue Jun 19, 2012 11:36 pm |
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Thanks Ladies. I feel better already. I guess waiting another year wouldn't hurt. Gives us time to save up. And if by then we decide not to do it again, we can use the money on something else!
Although if he let me have the nod, I'll just get a loan and start later this year!
Becks, 2 years!wow! Hopefully DH won't take that long. If its adoption that we go down, that can take a further 2 years. I just wanna be a mum. Don't mind if it's adopted or our biological own. I'll take both since I've always wanted a big family.
I was thinking of trying acupuncture and Chinese herbs while waiting. At least it's not such a rollacoaster as ivf. But I've not heard of any successes just from that. |
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April 2011 - ICSI. Bfn
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Posted: Thu Jun 28, 2012 1:33 pm |
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| Piglet, if you are confident you won't cycle again for a while, I would definitely give chinese herbs a go. I know that the clinics don't want us to use them while we're cycling, but my accupuncturist is adament they would help me if I was to take a break for 6 months. Trouble is, I'm like you, pick yourself up each time and ready to go again! Good luck whatever you decide x |
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TTC over 3 years
6 x months Clomid
3 x IUI BFN (2 Menopur, 1 Clomid)
1st ICSI Sept 2011 - BFP from Grade 1 embie. MC 5.5 wks
FET - BFN
2nd ICSI July 2012 - BFP from 2 blasts transferred. Scan 28/8 - 1 lovely h/b, EDD 19/4. |
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Posted: Mon Jul 02, 2012 11:57 pm |
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Hi melkski
Thanks. I kinda want to save money. But willl think about it.
Sumersun, de, go for it. I really hope it goes well.
Becks, thanks for the hug! Good luck and well done for getting on that rollacoaster again. I hope it's not going to take us 2 years to try again. I'm 34 this year so the clock is ticking!!!!
Strangely, I might be in same place as DH now.realised that I've not dealt with my grief and feelings. Just parked them up over last few months as been busy.
I'm in strange place and don't like it. Going to see a counsellor soon to help hopefully move me out of this dark place.
Maybe the answer is to keep myself busy, but I don't want thinks to build up inside, with no where to go.
I better go sleep now.
Night ladies.
Pigs.x |
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April 2011 - ICSI. Bfn
Oct 2011 -ICSI. Zero fertilisation |
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Posted: Wed Jul 11, 2012 10:23 pm |
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| Hi again, hope the counsellor helps xx |
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TTC 9+ years - AKA Miss Daisy!
2009 Bfn, 2010 bfp - bio chemical pregnancy/early miscarriage
2011 3rd attempt (Short Protocol) and first immune cycle - poor response, 4 eggs. Only 1 mature, zero fertilisation
End of the IVF journey? |
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Posted: Thu Jul 12, 2012 7:56 pm |
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Hi summer sun
Counsellor kinda helped. I'm ready to start again. I have fears that because the next attempt is likely to be our last go, that if it doesn't work, we have to accept its the end.
Apparently mentally it gets harder with each attempt, and I don't want to go through that. I was mentally worse than we could have imagined last time so if it gets worse, horror!!!
DH still not ready. Not even ready to look at adoption. I get the feeling he doesn't want to try adoption but he doesn't know much about it.
I'm just gonna have to keep myself busy and distracted.
How's the DE route going? You found a match?
P.x |
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April 2011 - ICSI. Bfn
Oct 2011 -ICSI. Zero fertilisation |
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