CARE Fertility Bulletin Board

Juleshid · 11 Dec 2007

Milly congratz on being pupo, have never had an FET so dont really know about otd, hope you feel better soon.

Katie, glad to hear all is going well, good luck for the move Smile

Had a look through my notes, they don't tell me anything new really, only that they did have trouble with one of my eggs not making it past ICSI, but I think as it was 1 and on my 2nd treatment they kind of just discounted it /shrug, I am glad they dont say "has crappy eggs" all over the place from the beginning though.

J x

wendymw · 01 Feb 2008

Jules, good news and bad news on your notes. It would be great to have answers, but good that they hadn't put anything that was glaring that they should have told you before.

Milly, sorry you're not feeling well, but yay for the blast on board!

VIP thanks, I've had a relaxed weekend, just spent some time with my boy (who did 5 wees in his pants yesterday -sigh). I had a nice day with my mum on Friday and found a dress - I even got a fascinator! Theo is quite tall, he seems to go through spurts of growing loads, then stays the same for a bit. I didn't buy a thing for Theo (well a couple of 99p jigsaws, but that was it) and got quite a bit of stuff for my holidays - only 6 weeks till we go to Majorca! How are you doing? Where are you up to now?

Katie, glad that you're doing well. Moving, wow that's gone quickly. Sure the races will be ok - at least I won't have to make an excuse for not drinking now... I could afford to go again and do have the sperm, just not decided if I want to or not yet. I think in my heart I haven't given up all hope just yet, so who knows.

Anna hope you're ok and your DH's leg is getting better.

W x

MILLYCURLYLOCKS · 03 Apr 2008

hi everyone hope you are all well

wendy a nice holiday to look forward too sounds good.

well the good news is the bug seems to have gone and im feeling much better. I have af type pains today on and off and just hoping af stays away. fingers and toes crossed x x

AMR80 · 26 Dec 2008

Sorry I haven't been on for a bit. Embarassed

Hubby leg is now good. DS has been very ill with wheezing and end up in a & e with a nebuliser on Saturday, poor little mite. Sad

He is on the mend now but hard to keep a 2 year old still!

I had my 20 week scan and all was good. I was worried but such a relief. We asked to find out the gender and the baby had its legs crossed but the sonographer was able to have a quick look and was 90 % sure its a girl. Very Happy

I am going to get a private one done.

Wendy - really sorry to hear your result. Sad

It's pants pants and more pants

Milly - Fingers crossed for your fet

VIP - hope you are getting on well

Jules - Sorry you didn't find any answers in your notes but hopefully that is good news if you know what I mean.

Katie - Glad everything is good with you. Maybe your baby will be a day baby. DS was very nocturnal.

Anna x

MILLYCURLYLOCKS · 03 Apr 2008

hi everyone hope u are all well.

i gave in and tested today 13dpt and amazingly got a BFP Very Happy

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I am concerned tho i have back pain more on the left side and having dizzy spells. After having ectopic pregnancies on both my previous BFP i think i will only worry until i have a scan to confirm a normal pregnancy. very scared.

vip · 16 May 2007

whoooppppiieee Huge congratulations Milycurlylocks Smile

well done.

Sorry to hear about your back and dizzy spells, I hope you've managed to talk to Care or your gp for advise/reassurance?

Try not to worry, here's to a healthy, happy pg Smile

I had my transfer today, 2 lovely blasts on board!

xx

wendymw · 01 Feb 2008

Milly, fab news well done you. Hopefully it's just implantation and other wierd and wonderful things that are going on and nothing untoward. As VIP says ring Care if you're worried (although they'll probably just tell you off for testing early!).

VIP woo hoo, great news that you've got 2 blasts on board. Fingers crossed. When's your OTD?

Anna, lovely news that you're having a girl, so exciting for you.

Katie, hope the move went ok and you're feeling ok and not over doing it.

Jules, how are you doing?

I'm ok. Well you know, ok ish. Still not really made any decisions. Got my review booked for 10th Sept - I wanted it after I've seen thyroid doc (I'm seeing him on 7th) in case there's any issue with my thyroid as that will affect my decision about whether to go again or not.

I am going to start looking at getting some new furniture for the back bedroom for Theo, so he can go into a big boy's room, get it decorated etc. Just need to make a decision about what I want to buy him...

Hope everyone is ok.
Wendy x

MILLYCURLYLOCKS · 03 Apr 2008

hi and thankyou

i called care today they said to call on friday test day.

i feel much better today bach ache has eased.

vip two blasts wow could be twins

wendy hope your appointment goes well so you can make your decision. i bet theo will love having his room decorating. katie loved adding peppa pig transfers to her bedrrom walls.

anna hope u are well xxx

AMR80 · 26 Dec 2008

Milly - Congratulations on your bfp. Very Happy

Fantastic news. I really hope everything is good for you today. I didn't dare ring care till OTD as didn't want a telling off but the waiting nearly got to me too much.

VIP- Great news on your 2 blasts. Here's hoping they settle in nice and snuggly.

Wendy - Good thinking about your appt otherwise you may get delayed.

AFM - I am fine. Had my consultation today and have a growth scan and appt at 32 weeks.

Anna x

Juleshid · 11 Dec 2007

Just a quick one to say:

Ooh Milly congratulations Smile

Vip congrats on being PUPO,

Will be back later on hopefully

J x

vip · 16 May 2007

Hi ladies,

I've tested positive...otd tue so hope it sticks Smile

xx

wendymw · 01 Feb 2008

Great news VIP

Milly how you doing? Got a scan date yet?

Anna - gosh you're knocking along.

Katie how's the new house and bump?

Julia hope you're ok.

Lucy, won't be long until you start again. Lets hope it's 4th time lucky again 2nd time around.

I'm ok. Still in a state of indecision. I think I am moving one way at the moment, but it changes minute by minute. I'm just not ready to give up Theo's baby stuff. I'm decorating the back bedroom and ordered all new furniture for him as he's 3 in about 6 weeks. It's breaking my heart. I know I have to move on, but it's killing me the thought of dismantling his cot bed and his nursery furniture. I remember so well putting it together with my cousin. There's a lot I'm finding hard at the moment.

So, to counter this I've sprung into action. Trying to 'do' to stop the thinking. I'm breaking into my savings and as I say, I've ordered all new furniture for Theo, I'm going to order some fitted wardrobes for the extension, so it will finally look like a finished bedroom. I'm going to start looking for a new job because being on secondment has made me realise quite how unhappy I've been with my current employer - they may have a job going at the client I'm working at, but nothing definite for a few weeks yet. I really feel like IVF has put my life on hold for the last 2 years with having all my thyroid crap last year, then my dad's cancer, then my aunty died, a miscarriage, a failed cycle... So only I can change my life and stop being so miserable and start appreciating what I do have.

Sorry, I didn't intend to come on here and bore you all with my tales of woe. I'm really looking forward to going on holiday in 3 weeks, I've not been on a beach holiday for 2 weeks for years. As long as my sisters and I don't end up killing each other (my middle sister in particular...), it should be a fab holiday. It will be nice to have some time to spend with my sisters and have some decent chats. With 6 children between us it's hard to have a conversation and keep on the same thread for more than 2 minutes when they're around!

Love to all and sorry again for sounding like a miserable cow.

Wendy.
p.s. Jules, I really do know how lucky I am, honestly!

vip · 16 May 2007

Wendy, stop it...the last thing you are is a miserable cow!!!!!! That's what we're all here for to listen to each other and support when we can.

Sounds v exciting ordering all Theo's bedroom furniture, please let me know how it it as I'm v tempted to get some too Smile

It know how hard it is for you with the decision...but I promise you once you've made your mind up either way it will be a lot easier. Don't panic about being undecided, you have months/years to decide. It's perfectly normal to change your mind too as everything is still raw. Perhaps you'll have time on holiday to put some thoughts together. How lovely, 2 wks in the sunshine .... nice Smile

You'll feel much better after a well deserved break and family time.

xx

Chucy · 17 Apr 2008

Ooohhh VIP that is wonderful news so so pleased for you xxx

Wendy I think a job change sounds like a good idea. You do spend so much of your life at work that I think it is important to not be unhappy there. Took me awhile to realise that in my last job but must say leaving fee earning was the best thing I ever did Smile

hope you find a way forward soon xx

Hi to everyone else and congrats Milly too

Lol
Lucy
Xx

Claire_G · 12 Aug 2006

VIP!!! I thought you were waiting to test! I'd have come on sooner. Congratulations xxx

So happy for you, here's to a healthy and happy pregnancy xx

Another 'loonie immunie' pregnant! We'll have to get the old chat back up and running xx

Love

Claire G x

vip · 16 May 2007

Thanks Lucy and Claire Smile

Lucy - how are you? i noticed Wendy saying you were cycling soon, ooohh good luck to you too. Really hope you get a lovely bfp v soon Smile

Claire - yes I was going to wait but our friend's pg daughter didn't come last min and after my friend getting all excited about me maybe being pg again etc I just felt I needed to know if it was negative rather than start getting my hopes up. I had some cramping Fri too and my sense of smell was v strong so it got me thinking that maybe I could be pg and didn't want to get my hopes up iykwim. Still v nervous about it all.

If we are lucky to get to the scan and see a hb I will start to get excited Smile

xx

Yes, would be lovely to have chats on our loonie immues. How are you? Gosh, nearly 20 wks!! Are you going to find our the flavour? I remember you didn't with Felicity did you. Bet you are getting excited now Smile

MILLYCURLYLOCKS · 03 Apr 2008

hi everyone

wendy hope you are ok shopping and a holiday sounds a good idea always makes me feel a bit better.

vip yeahhhhh congrats

ive had an eventful week. i had two scans last week. I continued to have some pain and convinced myself i was having an ectopic and was sent to the local hospital. everything was fine but no heartbeat could be seen as it was to early. Care also wanted to do an early scan. so i went on friday and a heartbeat was seen at five and half weeks so pleased. next scan in a few weeks. I feel so much better the pain has eased and the morning sickness is begining lol. x x x x

vip · 16 May 2007

Millycurlylocks Smile

well done, wonderful news seeing the h/b xx

Claire_G · 12 Aug 2006

VIP, you are bound to be very nervous, it's completly understandable Hun x but there is nothing to suggest that this one or two Smile

are not here for the next 9 months. It's a long old slog to the scan, or so it feels but just take it all day by day. Fingers crossed that all will be just fab x

We are not finding out what we are having...I loved the suprise when Fliss came out, it was amazing. And I know how blessed we are to have one of each already that we really don't mind what we have.

Keep well xx

Love

Claire G x

Juleshid · 11 Dec 2007

Yay Vip congratulations on your BFP Smile

Milly congratz on seeing the Hb, glad you can stop worrying about ectopic now

Sorry I haven't been about much, have been trying not to spend too much time dwelling on everything which i inevitably do if I stray from this thread - so you lovely ladies will have to carry on posting here as I have minimised the stalking recenty :-p

Wendy no need to apologise for being fed up hun, it does sound like you are doing things about it, I am mostly jealous of the beach holiday, would kill for one but what with money and DH and his stupid shift/holiday system, the only dates we could have gone away were "stolen" by the other woman i work with (she didnt know i wanted them so will have to let her off!) so we havent really got a chance this year.

We still haven't decided what we are going to do next, I think if we have more treatment it will probably be abroad so I can't do anything till 2013 when I get my new holiday allowance anyway, also might actually have saved some money up by then. So in the meantime I am mostly ignoring the forums, focusing on my trip to Germany and then my birthday, and Slimming World - I have managed to lose just over a stone in 4 weeks so am rather chuffed, pity I still have several more to go - I hadn't realised how much weight I'd put on over the last couple of years, gonna completely blame hormones and stuff and not all the cakes and pies!!

Love to All

Julia

vip · 16 May 2007

Julie - wow a stone in 4 wks that's really good Smile

I tried to loose some weight, starved myself and excercised daily for nearly 2 wks and only lost a pound!!!!! Gave up after that!

Goold luck with loosing more weight and next year will be here before you know it and you'll be in tip top condition to pile the weight back on for lovely baby bump Smile

Take care xx

AMR80 · 26 Dec 2008

Sorry I haven't been about much. Been running around like a mad woman with work, granny and Zach. I am glad it is Friday!!!! Very Happy

Wendy you make me laughing saying knocking along. Smile

Firstly VIP massive Congratulations to you on your BFP. Very Happy

Milly - Sorry to hear about the scare but great news that a heartbeat was seen. Very Happy

Wendy - Don't apologise for feeling sad as it is totally understandable. Regretably it is the crapness of failed treatment. When I had my 2 failed cycles (before DS) it really was being in limbo and life was put on hold and if we knew we had to jump through a certain number of hoops to get DS that would have been ok but it was the uncertainity. Of course you are grateful for what you have but you wanted to extend your family. Big hugs Wendy. I always wished I could wave a wand and banish infertility away forever. I think you are doing the right thing trying to change things you have control over.
Where are you going on holiday? I good bit of sun, relaxation and alcohol (well as much as you can with the kiddies there but there are always the evenings) Wink

Jules - Gutted you had your holiday stolen, how annoying. DH had his nabbed by a colleague. Luckily for me being my own boss I have sorted out another week for September to go to Devon but now my brother, sil and niece (7 months old) are coming over from US so got to lose a day. seeing them. Typical the week I pick and too late to change it, grr. When do you go to Germany? Well done you on losing a stone in 4 weeks. Fantastic work. I think it is definetely the hormones and not the cake.

Hello everyone I have missed.

Anna x

wendymw · 01 Feb 2008

Blimey ladies, I must have read this thread when I was drunk on Friday night, but have absolutely no recollection of doing so... Embarassed

Milly, great news that you've seen a heartbeat.

VIP, not long now until your scan. Is it a week tomorrow?

Anna, sounds like you've got a lot on as usual. At least you get a holiday before baby number 2 comes along.

Jules, great to hear from you and well done on the weight loss. I have at least 4 stone to lose (well bordering on 4.5 stone). Just haven't seemed to be able to get motivated though. Only 2 weeks until holiday, so doubt that I'm going to be slimline before I go! Must start in September when I'm back... You do right to focus on your holiday coming up and saving. I'm sure you'll manage to persuade your DH to have one last cycle and if you do it abroad then it will no doubt feel different. Fingers crossed.

As for me, well I'm feeling a bit more perky (despite crying on Friday night whilst drunk looking at a photo of a colleagues baby son - their eldest is 7 months younger than Theo and they already have number 2...). Since I last posted I've been thinking a lot and made a half decision. I think that if my thyroid is OK when I see the thyroid consultant in October (I won't be able to cycle before then even if I wanted to as I'm off the thyroid meds now and there's a chance that it won't be 'stable'), I will go for one last round of IVF. If it's not OK (and I'm likely to have to have surgery etc), then I will call it a day for IVF as it will no doubt take too long to get thyroid sorted (by which time I'll be an old bird!).

I've also started thinking about and looking into adoption. It was something that I always said I would do if I couldn't have children of my own and it's definitely an option. My local authority make you wait 12 months after any IVF though before you can start the process, so nothing much would happen until next year. I've got some dates for their open evenings though, so may go along to one in a couple of months and see what they say. I need to lose some weight and stop smoking (I have been on and off around treatment etc this year), so lots of changes to come for me.

Lucy, you're right, I do need to look for another job. I'm going to wait a month or so to find out if there's any chance of any jobs where I'm on secondment before I start looking - also to see if I'm going to do IVF again or not.

Right best get on. Just had a mini trauma - my dad's turned up at my house to put the blind and curtains up in Theo's room without telling me he was coming and has to go into the garage for drill bits - which is where my smoking stash is. I'm 37 and still scared of my parents who don't know that I smoke! Guess that cats out of the bag now...

Wendy x

Juleshid · 11 Dec 2007

Im off to Germany end of next week, only really for a lonnng weekend though, but hey I achieve my "Get the hell outta the UK at least once a year" plan.

i still have another 4 and a half stone to lose, so my stone in a month was nice but sadly only a start, I mostly miss bread and cake, stupid diet. Though to be fair without going on about it too much, its not exactly rocket science the plan is, eat as much fruit and veg as you like, if you wanna snack eat fruit, all pasta and rice and potatoes is "free" but 1/3 of your plate always has to be fruit and veg, the idea being you fill up on that rather than other stuff, oh and do all your cooking with yukky 1 calorie spray instead of real oil :s.

Lol wendy, finally busted - probably find they knew allll along! Glad you have a plan, its what drives me spare the just milling about waiting.

MILLYCURLYLOCKS · 03 Apr 2008

hi everyone

wendy i hope your thyroid s ok so that you can cycle again.

jules sounds like your doing the slim world diet. i did that after i had katie and lost 2 stone really quickly i went down to 8 stone 13 was well chuffed. ive put half a stone back on since starting last cycle of ivf. good luck enjoy your break away.

vip how are you doing ?

anna hope you and baby r doing well

well i have good news to share. i had a scan yesterday and im 8 weeks due date 23rd march. i was so nervous been havin period pains. everything was good and i was discharged from care. i need to make an appointment with a midwife now. ive been keeping my pregnancy a secret but dont know how long i can keep it from people as one person in work has already asked me if i was pregnant. x x x x