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| Robbo2 |
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| Joined: 14 Mar 2007 |
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 Posted: Wed Feb 29, 2012 9:04 pm |
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Hiya Squeeza
I'm sorry to bother you but you gave me such good advice re DS last time I wondered if I could pick your brains again???
DS Still got the clings - can't even hang the washing out without him screaming the place down - it's really tiering but more upsetting than anything  !
Anyway school asked me if I had a minute today when I went ot pick him up. Last week they had the owner of the nursery in (they have 2 locations so she's not normally in DS's school). The teaching assistant wasn't there as she was off soick hence the reason for the owner being there. DS has only seen her briefly about 5 months ago on an open day they did so really doesn't know her. Anyway his normal teacher had to nip to the loo and DS went into panic mode cos she'd left him and went running at the toilet door banging on it for her to come out. The owner thought his behaviour extreme (despite kowing the background!) and asked his teacher to have a word with me about it so she has today (a week on!). I asked what she thinks we should do and if she thought thee was any other problem - she said not really I just won't be able to write a very cheerful report and the owner thinks it's just something he has to work through - well should they be helping him here or not? She say's he woudln't interact or play with anything last week (but surely ALL kids have days like this - I know my friends kids do). He has absolutely no problem relating to adults/older children but does have a problem with kids his own age. I asked him yesterday why he talks to the mums of children rather than the children themselves - he said cos they aren't clever enough to answer me!*? Now what do I say to that???? Anyway he's been a little better this week and we've had some good days but the teachers have no got me paranoid. Is there something I should be looking for in particaluar - I'm thinking on the autistic spectrum (aspergers????) but don't know anyone with it and TBH his teachers don't seem to have a clue - which is very worrying! I wondered if you could give me some pointers. I've spoken to a berevement councillor and she says his behavious is typical of a child grieving. What's worrying me is that he's refusing to play with toys at school cos there's nothing good to play wiht like at home! Which is making him even more subdued. Any advice please?
Sorry for mammoth post - its hard to write a short story over such a subject  !
Thanks
Robbo x |
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| Squeeza |
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| Joined: 23 May 2007 |
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Posted: Wed Feb 29, 2012 11:09 pm |
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Hi Robbo
Afraid just a quickie for this evening but don't want to read and run- he sounds like a clever little boy whi is still grieving and struggling to make sense of what has happened bless his heart. I'll be back tomorrow with a longer reply - he does sound so very much like my Ned!
Lots of love and hugs to you both x x xx |
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| Robbo2 |
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| Joined: 14 Mar 2007 |
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Posted: Thu Mar 01, 2012 10:41 pm |
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Thanks - will await your reply !
Just an update as I have spoken to his teacher today and said I wanted to speak to the owner but she was unavailable. Anyway I asked his teacher today if she thought there was a problem and she said yes she did intially but having spoken to her boss (the owner) her boss doesn't think so - just extreme spearation anxiety. She even said she had similar things with her own daughter when she first started school. I'm looking for an alternative nursery to try him in (although not sure if the unknown is a good thing to try him with!) as I'm still not sure his teacher is doing all she can. I think she's making her issues for her daughter (only child, shy, finds it hard to make friends etc) into my son's issue. She's constantly on at him to go and PLAY WITH YOUR FRIENDS - urgh!!! TBH I think DS is also picking up on the conversations that are going on around him and using them to manipulate the situation to some extent. Don't get me wrong I don't think for 1 minute his separation issue is put on but I do think the not mixing and playing with toys available at school is just plain stubborness on his behalf cos he's heard his teacher saying she thinks it's an issue! Oh Hum - you just get over 1 thing and another pops up - I really hope it's just a normal phase cos I'll be bald by the time I'm 45 at this rate!
Robbo x |
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