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Hi, just wondered if anyone has suffered with anxiety/depression through all of this to the point where all the issues and uncertainty affects your daily life and puts your relationship at risk. Why is it that DP/DH cannot totally understand and just behave like typical men!!!
Difficult to chat to family or friends who are not in this position.
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IVF X1 Oct 09 BFP M/C
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Posted: Thu Apr 05, 2012 3:59 pm |
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Lauriecharlie,
Did not want to read n run, sending you a big hug  ivf is very hard and it deffinatley tests your relationship but you have both got to be strong together, maybe have some time out together, have a nice holiday, just have some time for you 2 we had just over 1 year off ivf, my husbands idea, i wasnt so keen because i just wanted to carry on but i was depressed n hated being round babies, children n pregnant ladies but i can now say it was the best thing we did and i am now 8 weeks pregnant with twins i wish you all the best and hope my words can be a little bit encouraging to you xxxx |
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Em n Rick xxxx
TTC for 6 years both aged 29
4th time lucky - Lilly Rose and Tyler James born 03/10/12 😄😄👣👣 |
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Posted: Thu Apr 05, 2012 8:05 pm |
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Lauriecharlie
As Em has already said, IVF is very hard and unless people have gone through it firends and family cannot fully understand how you feel no matter how sympathetic they are.
I also think that men handle the challenge quite differently to women. I think we show our emotions more readlily and our husbands tend to keep thier feelings to themselves. This sometimes comes across as them not understanding but I think it's just thier way of dealing with it. Also, I think men are more accepting of infertility and can see a life without children whereas women let it become all consuming and think about it everyday. I do think that it is tougher socially for women as well, for instance if your friends all have children then that will dominate the conversation when you go out, whereas men won't talk about children even if they have them.
You need to talk to your husband about how you are feeling if you haven't already, and spend some time doing the kind of things your friends with kids can't do. e.g. a last minute city break?
Also, remember that things can change very quickly in the world of IVF. The fact that you are posting on the immunology forum makes me think that you are having immune investigations/tests which could well be the change in fortune that is due. Look at all of the gilrs on here that have had success and gorgeous little babies after an immune cycle/s following years on unsuccessful IVFs.
Try to keep postivie. Trust me I know how hard it is to keep positive sometimes but you have to try otherwise it can all get on top of you.
All the very best of luck x x x x x |
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Me & Hubby 36 TTC since 2006, Natural pg Nov06 mc Jan07. Clomid x 3, IUI x 3 2008 all BFN.
#1 ICSIs 2009 BFN, #2 ICSI 2010 BFN, #3 ICSI April 2011 immune BFN, #4 Immune FET Aug 2011 BFN, #5 immune FET Jan 2012-BFP!! |
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| Elizas |
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Posted: Thu Apr 05, 2012 9:36 pm |
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| What medication did you have during your treatment? Did you have level 1 and 2 bloods? |
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Posted: Fri Apr 06, 2012 8:18 pm |
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thanks so much for your reply ladies. If you cant off load on here where can you eh!!!
Had pre treatment scan today and start down reg on 17th April. Will try and be positive.
Yes I had level 1 & 2 bloods ive got elevated killer cells, MTHFR and PAI 1 blood clotting problem.
Back on the rollercoaster!!!
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IUI X1 BFN
IUI x2 BFP M/C
IUIx3 BFN
IVF X1 Oct 09 BFP M/C
IVF x2 BFN
IVF x3 BFN
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Posted: Fri Apr 06, 2012 9:16 pm |
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| sorry ladies forgot to say massive congrats for your BFP's!!! |
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IUI X1 BFN
IUI x2 BFP M/C
IUIx3 BFN
IVF X1 Oct 09 BFP M/C
IVF x2 BFN
IVF x3 BFN
ICSI plus Immunes May 2012 BFP |
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Posted: Fri Apr 06, 2012 9:32 pm |
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Lauriecharlie
Thanx and just to give you more hope I also have mthr and pai 1 aswell as raised nk cells so next time with the right protocol hopeful it will work for you xxxx |
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Em n Rick xxxx
TTC for 6 years both aged 29
4th time lucky - Lilly Rose and Tyler James born 03/10/12 😄😄👣👣 |
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| Lubo |
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Posted: Tue Apr 10, 2012 8:38 pm |
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Hi honey,
I experienced a high level of anxiety in the later years of treatment- I found acupuncture and massage helped a bit.
Also there is a Care leaflet re how men and women can experience IVF emotionally differently - have you seen it? DH and I found it helpful.
You have a very similar treatment history to me honey- m/c and fertility treatment is so so sore-big hugs. I hope that immune treatment gives you the happy ending that it gave us. Good Luck
Love Lubo xxx |
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