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sharon35 · 22 Apr 2009

need a little advice .....

seams so silly but ive got a right bee in my bonnet about it so .....

Xavier is at nursery 2 mornings a week so i can get some work done at home.... i provide all the usuals they need when there...so last time we had sun i took sun cream and left it in his drawer with is name on and let them know it was there, i aslo said i dont mind if its borrowed by others but didnt want xavier to borrow anyone elses....meaning if someone had forgotten or ran out then by all means have a squirt of ours

last week he wasnt at nursery as he was unwell, so yesterday 1st day he has been there in 2 weeks and 1st day he has been ther of sun, i get into his room and his cream is on the side, i checked his drawer to be sure and it was xaviers.... id already put cream on and took a 6hr cream as they do alot of water play and it lasts a bit longer in the water so i explained this then put both creams in his drawer.......

go back to pick him up and both creams again are on the side, so i just asked do any other parents provide cream ??? i go a no not really reply, so its bugging the blinking hell out of me..... foolish me is providing cream for all 9 babies they have 5 days a week !!!! so what do i do without being touchy ..... my hubby says to cream him before i drop him off and bring it home with me as we are not there to provide for the other kids .... but then part of me then thinks what if one of them gets burnt and id took my cream home ???

we are on holiday on friday so thursday is his last day before we go so im going to clear out his drawer to bring spare items home ....

as well what bugs me is i always have taken spare ready made milk and food in for his drawer, it was mentioned yesterday one of the other babies was hungry so they fed him xaviers food and milk !!!! yes xavier never uses it as he is fed and milked before he gets there... but thats not the point is it ???? am i being touchy or am i right to be miffed off ??

thanks

helpful tackful ways to mention to staff would help.... what doesnt help is my best friend runs the place so i dont want to seam like im running to my friend with things .....

thanks

x x

Namolls · 21 Sep 2005

OMG Sharon

That is completely unacceptable.

It is not your responsibility to provide suncream or food and milk for any of the other children - and quite frankly I'm appalled that the nursery thinks it's acceptable to us your supplies.

The nursery that William is at provides all of his nappies, suncream, food and formula (when he was on formula).

If as a parent we don't wnat them to use their suncream then we can provide our own, but it is our responsibility to provide this.

In my opinion your nursery should insist that other parents bring in suncream - but they should have some of their own on stand by if parents forget. If there are persistent offenders who forget to bring in suncream or food then they should be charged for whatever the nursery uses.

Gosh, I'm so angry for you - it's just not fair at all.

I would struggle to be tactful tbh - i would simply spell out why you were unhappy and ask them to explain why they think you should be funding suncream for every other child.

It is not acceptable.

Hope you get it sorted.

Nikki

Briony · 06 Apr 2001

I don't think that is acceptable either. I'd just be clear and concise in trying to deal with it.

Bx

rlt · 19 Feb 2011

You have every right to be cross. In my opinion the other parents shd be as responsible as you and provide suncream. Have staff got the consent of parents to use suncream? Nursery shd provide it if so. Also surely nursery shd have spare food. Think I wd put views in writing or ask for a meeting. Or if you prefer quiet life just ensure you take all stuff as planned. It is not yr responsibility if other chd get sunburnt.

Robbo2 · 14 Mar 2007

Hi Sharon

I have to say if DS was in a private paying nursery I too would expect everything to be provided for. However they obviously dont do this soooo I would take my friend to one side and tell her truthfully - I don't mind the odd one borrowing things but I've got through a bottle of sun cream in this nice weather and Xavier is only in 2 mornings per week and see what she says. DS is 4 and so in his school nursery but they have a legislation saying they have to cream them up every 2 hours - not sure if this is a legal thing or just their nursery rules - so this means we have to provide suncream.

I would feel bad if another child got burnt cos there was no cream but as rlt says - it's not really upto you to provide for someone elses child.

Robbo x

Sal · 18 May 2003

They shouldn't be sharing stuff because of risk of allergies either, although only a small risk. Children can be allergic to all sorts of things including sun cream!

Sal x

EM.J · 30 Jul 2009

i agree with the others, Moses takes everything to nursery with him and they ask that we take sun hat sun cream and wellies, raincoat for rain. i would be really cross if all his stuff was used as sun cream is not cheap at all.
I used to be a nursery manager too and our policy was we would provide sun cream but if they wanted to take in their own it was named and only that child used it.
The fact they have been taking his food is disgusting, what would happen if he needed it and there was none left???
I would have a word about it, just be blunt and tell them how you feel. im sure your friend wouldnt mind, she would want to know if there were any problems in her nursery.
Emma.xx

Katydid · 19 Jul 2011

I would be raging! That is totally unacceptable, not to mention completely unprofessional! You need to talk to your friend about it. You could always say that you're just warning her that it has happened in case other parents are providing cream/formula which is used for other children as they may get upset and make complaints. Chances are that she doesn't know it's happened if she doesn't work in the room that your ds is in. There needs to be a clear policy as to what parents should provide and written permission needs to be given for creams to be applied - it's as much to cover the nursery staff as it is to protect the children. The other parents probably assume that the cream has been provided by the nursery. I've been looking at places round where I live and on their websites they categorically state that either suncream/nappies/formula are provided (allowing parents to provide their own if they choose to) or if the parents need to provide their own. You are totally within your rights to be angry about this!!!

Hope you manage to get it sorted!

Katy

sharon35 · 22 Apr 2009

This nursey does not provide anything like nappies, food, milk,creams etc.... its to keep costs down, fab nursery, all of my children have been through there and still as good as its ever been, always get outstanding in ofstead and staff are wonderful, my friend works in office mainly, but upset the baby room staff by checking in on Xavier quite often !!! they have told me she buts in .... i dont have a problem as she just tells them as it is.... she would go nuts at them if i mentioned it to her.... all parents are given notice to bring in hats and cream in march/april time.... some just dont .... its just bugged me as im sure 1 bottle would last him most of the summer for just 2 mornings a week as i cream him before we get there anyway but at this rate it will be 1 a week !!!!! sounds tight but with 4 children at home and all of them diving in pool every 20 mins we go through cream like water ......with trying to put some money to one side for another go at a sibling for Xavier im trying to watch pennies .... Xavier is on cows milk now so the milk thing maybe petty but its just what is wrong with these parents.... if i can provide why cant they.....maybe my standards are just higher than these other parents as we had to go through so much to get him.....

a quiest word with is key worker in the morning i think im bring it all home tomorrow as we go away and i want to clear out his drawer anyway....

thanks glad im not just nuts ....felt really like i was being mean and selfish with my things over this ....

x x x

*claire* · 13 Mar 2001

As a nursery manager, we have strict policies and procedures on suncream! Each parent is asked to supply a bottle of suncream to KEEP at nursery in a tray. each bottle is named and ONLY that child is allowed to have it administered. For those that forget, just dont bother etc we have a bottle of boots soltan cream and every parent signs a form on induction giving us permission to use this on their child in the event they forget their own cream etc.

when applying suncream we have to do each child individually, washing and drying our hands in between each child, even if they are siblings. this is to prevent any cross contamination, or if we use gloves, we have to use a clean pair each time.

there have been occasions when a child has run out of nappies/wipes and we borrow from another child if they have lots in their changing bag, but as a rule we always have a cupboard full of spares that have been donated to us, and we do have nursery wipes in most of the time.

I think its totally unacceptable blatantly using your stuff, and especially his food and milk Shocked

I think a word with his key worker will solve the issue without making a huge deal.

claire xx

Sah · 14 Sep 2004

Agree with all that has already been said. If you have already put it on in the morning does he need it reapplied whilst there? I have just bought some new Boots Soltan all day lotion and it's now 8 hours protection instead of 6 woo hoo much better for the school day!

Hope you get it sorted xx